Anyone successfully won their man back round ?

[whirlywoo]

Wether it's your husband or boyfriend or partner After a break up where your made to feel heartbroken and crushed to bits I've been told the best thing to do is to show you are moving on and getting stronger , no contact and show that you don't care about him. Has anyone had experience of this and what happened? Did they come crawling back and change their minds? I don't even know if I would want him back if I end up a stronger person but it would be nice to feel like I've made a difference just for my own self esteem I suppose. Feeling like In the end I was the one to say 'no you had your chance and you can't have me now just because Ive become a better person'

What did you do to make changes in yourself ?

I feel I've stopped hurting for now as I'm just concentrating on trying to turn my life around for me. It's been very very hard! Just curious really about your stories of what happened if they felt they made a mistake leaving?

You wouldn't be a winner if he came back

He left you when you needed him as you had PND. He never spent time with the family and was never in a good mood with the kids.

You want that back again and see it as a win. Why?

This happened to me but I didn't deliberately try to 'win' him back. I just accepted he left, got on with my life and wished him well when he told me he had met someone else (I was hurt but didn't show it.) He came back after a year, taking me completely by surprise by which time I didn't want him.

Thing is, I'm not sure you can really fake it and like everyone else says, would you really want him back anyway?

Because all I can think of is the good times and how much we loved each other

Yeah that sounds like shit doesn't it I should focus on the crap.

So even if I don't want him back it would stil be nice to be able to have him tell me he wants it to work. Surely that would make me feel like I've come up trumps