Am I freaking?!

[ScouseBird8364]

Went on a date (first one in over 10 years) Friday and really like the guy! I was so nervous

He seems very over-confident, like he wouldn't really be bothered whether I liked him or not, which I do!

So played it cool the next day, he messages me, blah blah... I messaged him and asked if he is actually interested as I seemed to just be getting one word replies. He says he is, and wants to see me again but I can't help but feel he's just not that into me?

I hate myself for thinking he may be too good looking for me

Thing is, he didn't (& hasn't) paid me any compliments and didn't really ask me much about myself

Am I over-thinking here and sending my mind crazy?!

Again, why are you giving so much time to someone you're not sure is even interested in you? If he was really interested you would know!

I hope that didn't sound harsh, it wasn't meant to so sorry if it did.

I think it might help to bear in mind that there are loads of men out there. Maybe just try to enjoy dating and meeting new people and see what happens?

If he's messaging you but not replying to you, it sounds a bit like it's all on his terms and he's not really engaging with you as a person. Maybe he's trying to do the minimum in the hope of a shag? Tbh, it's v difficult to judge on the little we know here.

He blames you for making him feel awkward and doesn't ask you much about yourself. Sounds like a real catch! From past experience I'd run a mile now tbh. My ex was a bit like that but I gave him the benefit of the doubt. Wish I hadn't because he most definitely did not improve with time!

Thanks you lovely lot Mumsnet never fails to help to cheer me up

Seriously though, I'm so out of touch with the whole dating game now! When I dated before getting married, we didn't have the likes of Facebook etc.!

Would he have secured a second date by now if he actually was interested?

He's texted back, saying "Hey, You ok?" but I really can't tell what he wants? Surely, if he wasn't interested, would he not txt at all? But if he IS interested, wouldn't I be getting more than this, like talk of a 2nd date?

The question is do you want a second date?
If you do just ask him. At least you will know and can stop second guessing. This dating lark is a complete ball ache but sometimes you just have to push out your comfort zone to save all the head fucks.

*Betty he already has said he'd like to see me again, but hasn't yet said when, where etc., seems very vague

Calm the heck down lady!!!!

You met him once and you expect him to "like" your profile picture on fb?!!!

You seem quite hung up on this idea of compliments. I don't care much for men saying "you're gorgeous!", I prefer men that say "tell me more about it sounds interesting...". And then LISTEN.

Asking who you were to "Cx" could be really dick-ish. But honestly I'd expect someone I'd met once to actually sign their name! I wouldn't confidently just text you back withou confirming, although I think I'd say "hey - this is you, right?"

Stop playing games.
They are utterly pointless.
And they just make it harder for a genuine man to know what the hell is going on.

Continue messaging him on fb for a week. See what you think of him - does he show more interest in you? Not does he like your pictures, or compliment you. But - is his chat interesting about himself, and interested in you and your life.

If after a week or so he hasn't asked for another date, go right ahead and ask him. It's 2017. You don't even have to wait, I'm only suggesting it so you have time to calm down

If he doesn't bite your hand off yo meet again, then move on - he's not interested.

There's a really good dating thread on here.

Well done for taking the plunge!

Just one thing to say......

CALM DOWN!!!

You've only just met him!

Hee hee! I'm a crank aren't I?!

What if I'm nervous next date? Any tips guys?!

In the nicest way possible perhaps work on your self esteem a bit before any more dates. You've had one date, don't even know if you actually like him yet and already you're fretting and second guessing everything he says. I think even the keenest of keen guys might be put off by this level of anxiety after just one date. Relax, this dating malarkey is meant to be fun!

Sounds like he is hard work. Bin him.