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Would this bother you?

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Ffsherewegoagain · 14/05/2017 11:52

Have been dating someone for a few months.

He is still married and refers to his wife.

He has told me he is not living with her but they seem to spend a lot of time together and he has told someone official that he lives at her house.

I have just called him out on this and told him it's over because I think he's either too entangled with her for me to be comfortable or the other option is that he's still married and I'm the ow.

The other side is that he answers his phone any time I ring apart from an odd time when he says it's on charge and he texts all day and all evening.

He says I'm over reacting.

Haven't ever dated in the town he lives in. Haven't been to his main home (he's contracting near me and staying in a company provided b&b). He's been here but not met my kids. Have gone out where I live.

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Goingtobeawesome · 14/05/2017 17:45

Threads like this make me wish names were known in case it's someone on here's partner. But then I realise how daft that is if the are 1 million posters Wink and about 70 million in the country Blush.

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Ffsherewegoagain · 14/05/2017 18:33

I know she's still his wife. But. Constantly talking about my wife my wife?

Going with her every Sunday to church and every Monday night?

Meeting her to do things as a family with his parents and her parents and their son?

Telling me that they'd been split over a year but his family and some of their friends still didn't know they were split up?

When he had to ring the electric company telling me it was about her house and then slipping up and saying that it was their house? (Which is what set my teeth on edge last night and made me see red flags?)

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Aquamarine1029 · 14/05/2017 18:42

Stop questioning things. Your gut is telling you something is off with this man. TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS.

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Ffsherewegoagain · 14/05/2017 18:45

Thanks aqua. I just feel that it doesn't really almost matter if he's split properly from her or not. I don't like the way he is so so connected to her and referring to her as his wife and seeing her and being as intertwined as he and she are - and the fact I do not like it means that's enough of a reason to call it quits.

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Spoog1971xx · 14/05/2017 22:31

You have done the right thing

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