12 yr old daughter writing smut fan fiction.

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Ok so I don't post much but I am an avid reader etc.

My 12 year old daughter has been writing smut fan fiction on whatpad...I found it by searching her username for instagram on google.

It's pretty hardcore stuff...about a male gay relationship. I'm not a prude at all or homophobic but I was shocked at the terminology and just how graphic it was...and by how appalling her spelling is

It's made me really confused...do I tell her I know and that I'd rather she didn't or is it just a rights of passage kind of thing?

Just need a bit of advice on how to deal with it really.
Thanks.

I love how out of all of this you include that you are appalled by your daughters spelling.

Can people comment on the stories or interact with her in anyway? I'd be concerned if they could contact her through her writing these stories, they may believe she is older.

Rite of passage for pre-teen and teenage nerds I'm afraid

Is your only proof it's her that it's the same username? Seems a tenuous link.

I was a similar age when I used to write steamy fiction in my workbook if I finished my homework early. I'd have been mortified if any adult had seen it, never mind my mum (it was well pre-www): I would pretend you haven't seen it, and stick to your usual Internet safety briefing - but perhaps more frequently if you think it's possible she's interacting with strangers over it.

Oh and if you're worried about her spelling, in my experience Fanfiction.net/Archive of our Own has higher quality written fanfic, so she's not picking up bad habits from whatever she's reading :)

So others will also be able to see it and read it and know your DD is writing it?

So advise is to ignore it?

Bit different if it was in a personal diary locked up at home

I'd tell her I'd found it -

Reputable fanfic sites require users to confirm that they're eighteen/legally an adult in their country before they can access adult rated stories. Adults who use those sites will assume that anyone they interact with is also an adult. I think there might be a conversation to be had about what sites she's been accessing, and how.

(And in my experience some of the stuff on ff.net is dire, but that probably is the stuff written by twelve year olds.)

And in my experience some of the stuff on ff.net is dire, but that probably is the stuff written by twelve year olds

I suppose it is the site that graced the world with My Immortal

I did the same, at the same age. Writing homosexual fiction was easier as I was able to distance myself from it, as I wasn't excited or turned on by it, I was able to explore sexual relationships without it being me, or nearly me as they were both men.
I don't really see the issue. She's probably discovered masturbation, and is exploring her own sexuality no that of others.

I may well be posting the complete opposite to most, but it wouldnt bother me, by all means have na internet safety chat so she knows to never share persona entails etc.

Thanks for the replies...it's definitely my daughter, she has an unusual name and she has some of her real life friends as friends on there so not a tenuous link I'm afraid.

I'm an English literature lecturer so her spelling was an issue

Whatpad seems to be rife with younger teenagers writing, she writes none smut too and most of it is pretty good.

Just this one story published in Jan this year. She is nearly 13 and definitely exploring gender issues and has an interest in gender identity but the language was extreme.

The one thing I forgot to mention was she said it was mild and only X rated and that the next one would be XXX!!! Thankfully there isn't another one on there.

She is a nerdy kid-like her parents. I'll reiterate the need for internet safety and maybe tell her to not use her name on the internet as it's easy searchable and stuff pops up.

maybe tell her to not use her name on the internet

Definitely tell her not to use her real name for the purposes of writing and publishing smutfic! She needs a pen name. For all she knows, one of her teachers might be there, under a pen name, and recognise her.

My dd at the same age wrote a fair bit for Wattpad, and is very glad now that she used a non tracable pen name. Not because she was writing smut (just reading lots of it!) but because her writing was very obviously that of a 12 year old and she is a bit ashamed of it now (although one of her stories had 40,000 reads, so there are a whole load of not very discerning readers out there).

OP I'd let your dd know you found her story really easily and knew it was her and so other people may well do the same, and talk to her about internet safety. Otherwise I'd just rib her a little bit. My dd is also attracted to homosexual erotic fiction (and porn I'm sorry to say). I think it feels safer somehow.

She isn't using her full name but there isn't anyone with her name in the whole of her city comprehensive so it narrows it down. She has posted that she lives in GB an I personally do not know another person with her name.

From my experience whatpad is full of writings by young teens or pre teens. My two DDs have both spent time writing and reading on Whatpad. I did limit the use of it because from what I could see the spelling and grammar was appalling. Some of the stuff they wrote/read was a little on the edge for me but they seem to have outgrown it for now.

Please get her to change her name.

I too have a unique name (I don't know of anyone in the UK with the same) it's great for user names but I never use it for stuff I wouldn't want an employer or family to see, aka Mumsnet.

I was looking for a someone's twitter and found a forum post where they sound like a whiney child and a review for a sex toy.

Ah smutty fanfic written by 12 year olds - Legolas by Laura being one of the classics (I too am sniggering at the idea of fanfic.net having well written stuff on there - and I speak as someone who has a lot of my stuff posted on there). As for reputable sites checking age, well, in the case of AO3, "checking" consists of a warning flashing up saying "this could contain mature content, are you sure you want to go ahead?"

She's probably gained most of her knowledge of gay smut from reading other people's stuff - some of it is pretty eye-watering. At about age 13 my best friend and I used to write some pretty horribly violent, very graphic sci-fi horror stories - this was back in the late 70s! Hand written in notebooks back then. We grew out of it. (I think in my case it was a particularly horrible sado-masochistic sex/torture scene in a James Herbert novel which cured me of reading that stuff, aged about 14 - haven't read a horror novel since).

Totally agree with encouraging her to come up with a nom-de-plume (I have an incredibly googleable real name and a professional reputation I'd quite like to keep intact, so my fanfic life is hermetically sealed from the rest of my life). She may well be interacting with all sorts of people via personal messages depending on the site, so I'd also give her the reminder talk about "you could be talking to anyone".

Oh dear, at 13 I too was writing fan fiction that I thought was very steamy. I recently found it saved on my computer and opened it - it was awful, mortifying and very obviously written by someone with no experience of what she was writing about.

With that said, I knew many kids the same age who did exactly the same thing. We were all very nerdy, awkward, and apparently very bad at writing. I think it's a way of coming to terms with the adult ideas and concepts that young teens are starting to learn, but not actually taking part in. By writing about it, you explore the topics without actually doing anything in real life.

I'm afraid I don't have any advice about what to do in your situation- if my mum had ever found the stuff I'd been writing, I'd have been mortified

I taught English for a while and girls of that age did the same kind of thing.

Honestly I would just bring it up once and let her know that you know and just leave it be after that. Alot of girls right smut like this and post it online, it's just that generation has grown up.

This was me, though a different site. I had a huge number of followers too. Am still a writer now, but not of smut. It is pretty common i imagine. I remember sneaking in mills and boon books for inspiration

Seemingly writing gay fan fiction is a huge thing. Teen girls fancy the arse off a pop star, want to sexualise them, but can't face another female being the target of affection so make them gay. There was pretty hard-core fan fiction about One Direction and that was many many years ago! I came across it by accident - honestly. Lol

A discussion about unline safety, and how to be anonymous online is the first thing you need to do.

And then a creative (non-smut) course to nurture her talent might take the sting out of her mother having read her 'private' smut.

*online! Ffs

I've just read Legolas by Laura, I was expecting more laughs to be honest.

Embarrassing, but the only real worry is the username being a bit identifiable (and the spelling of course. )

I would tell her you've found it, not to shame her but because she needs to unlink her identity from her pen name. Without being unkind, the concerning thing here is she didn't think of that for herself. If she is going to use the internet to access and share adult content (in contravention of the sites ToS: Wattpad is 13+) then she needs to start thinking like an adult.

Hopefully, the realisation that her mum has read her smutfic will provide an enduring lesson about online privacy.