Is anyone awake who can chat

[minime88]

Just that really

I'm not sure if they will offer psychiatric treatment if he is drinking. I may be wrong.

Do you know if he is drinking because of his mental health or is his mental health issues as a result of him drinking? Does he drink every day?

And it also works positively for you because they will be able to see you are doing things to protect your unborn baby by reaching out for help.

If he is drunk he will have to be in a cell or a hospital bed to sober up - but that is necessary to keep you safe.

I think your focus needs to be on getting yourself to somewhere safe. I don't have the link but women's aid should be able to help and advise.

And him if he harms himself when he is hungover.

Iamdobby63 you are right and that's why he wasn't admitted last week.

He drinks because of his mental health.

Thanks all, think I'll call 111 and his GP if that fails although don't think GPs are open.

I'm going to have to miss work again to make sure he doesn't do anything stupid. I've had time off in the past because of him. I'm worried I'm going to lose my job.

When he threatens or when he harms himself is it because he thinks you will leave him ?

Sadly you can't risk staying put. He needs to get sober and get help and treatment for his mental health.

You already know he will be very sorry tomorrow. I feel for him but he has to help himself and you can't continue like this or you will end up ill or worse.

101 might get you help more quickly. Especially as it's Sat tomorrow (I had forgotten that).

Also, www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/

Thanks, shall I try 101 then?

If I go stay with my family they would never let me come back and I agree I need to leave tomorrow but I don't want to be never able to return if that makes sense? If I go to my family I would have to take time off. If I lose my job things would be horrendous. It isn't just a financial lifeline for me, it helps me in so many other ways.

If you call 111 they might send both ambulance and police TBH.

It doesn't really matter who you call though. Either 101 or 111 they will give you advice and hopefully send out the right services.

Make sure you mention that he threatens to harm himself when he sobers up and you are scared because you are pregnant.

You're an adult. Your family can't literally stop you returning, surely? Going home to be safe and have a break is not doing anything irreversible.
But meanwhile you need 101/111 to know the current situation.

Contact Women's Aid ... not here. DV is real and they will advise you. Certainly if you didn't need to push him, you should not resort to physical force.
However, if you were being threatened or coerced or were very scared that is legitimate. be truthful with yourself.
Don't worry if you did it to protect yourself.
It sounds like you really need advice.
And to go somewhere safe.

PS. people do not drink BECAUSE of mental health issues. They drink because they choose to and sometimes to excuse their actions whilst drunk..

www.womensaid.org.uk/

Did you manage to get some help mimime?

How is everything today mimime?