Another thread on here has brought up some feelings about behaviour of an ex that I wanted opinion on. There are a few different things.
- Night out with his friend and mine. About a year together. I can be quite a big drinker so high(ish) threshold. Had 3 ciders with my friend. Ex and his friend turn up, buy me a drink. I recall nothing else about the night other than hazy memories of arguing. Next morning he's angry, on the phone to his friend, they are saying if I'm on FB I must be cheating. I have texts from his friend with his address and kisses on it. Do you think they spiked me?
- Found messages to OW who he worked with saying he would rather be with her, that I was presentable but dull!! Seriously he was the dull one.
- 2 years in I drive to work and start getting text messages from a number I don't know. Suggestive messages asking to meet. Went home and told ex straight away. He looked at them, no real reaction. He went upstairs, I got another message. Nothing else.
- 3 years in I come home from work, find a phone charging on the bed. Look at it, only 2 numbers stored in it, mine and another woman. It had been used to send suggestive anonymous messages to this OW. I rang myself off the phone, same number had been texting me the year before. Confronted him, denied it to death, the phone disappeared so evidence lost. Said he'd found the phone in the garden!!!
- One evening house phone rings, it's the police. An ex girlfriend had reported him for sending harassing messages to her. He said his phone had called her by accident from his pocket.
Thing is I never in the 6-7 years we were together gave him any reason to doubt me. He's long gone now, just wondered why someone would behave like this. Insecurity I get but do you think this was something else? My DP who I confided in at the weekend described it as psychotic. Do you think it was?