Life getting me down

[Sweetnsalty]

I've name changed for this post because I feel a bit vulnerable right now. I'm so tired of struggling with life. It's really not that bad but I would really like to have more connected relationships. I've been single over a decade. I have friends but feel more disconnected than I ever have. I'm a lone parent. I love my child but I feel sad I've never been able to give them a family to belong to. I guess I feel lonely. I've been trying to get a new job and can't get past the interview stage. I've been getting lots of interview prep support. I go to the gym. I have social events in my diary. I just feel so alone. And stuck. I feel like I've spent years trying to improve my life but with no luck. I'd love some ideas about what to do next? Does anyone have any wise words of encouragement? Thank you in advance.

Hi Sweet, I don't have any advice for you but didn't want to read and run. Do you know or have any ideas as to why you feel disconnected to your friends? Changes in circumstances perhaps? Less in common than you once did?

I think its difficult to answer you OP, because your points seem kinda generalised. I'm not being unsympathetic. Being stuck is horrible but you seem very vague about reasons.

Hi zesty. I think we have grown apart because of changes in life circumstances. We geographically live far apart. I think we've lost close connections. I'm the only single friend so that might have something to do with it. Maybe I'm a bit more needy

I can relate to a lot of your comments lone parents myself also been single nearly a decade.....
I think it's hard as friends move on and this adds to the disconnected feeling especially if you feel your life is pretty much the same.
Are you interested in dating? or is it more general life changes you want?
How would you like your life to change?

I've tried dating. No luck yet. I've almost given up the thought of ever being in a relationship again. I generally do no t meet single eligible men. I want to feel satisfied with my life. Enjoy my job. Have meaningful relationships etc. I've been trying for years to achieve these things. I have a reasonably good job. A home. A lovely child. Friends. I exercise. I socialise. But I'm stuck. I've been applying for jobs in rural locations. I need a jolt. Something. Anything to prompt change. My pessimism is irritating me.