Hi there, because I'm very New to this site I'm not sure how to reply.
My partner, has only one friend, he is very open in the fact that he loves only me, he doesn't like people. Some people actually really don't like him
However, some people, like coming in contact, my friends, think he's wonderful, that side of him, the handsome side, the lovely side and don't get me wrong, everyone has a side, but his is almost psychopath.....hence why I need to plan all this out. Someone has asked me if I've brothers the answer is yes, two, older, and at the moment were all dealing with my dad poorly. The worse one is probably my sisters, I'm the eldest daughter, but we're a very close family. However, I cannot say anything yet, I really really need to be ultra careful.
On reflection, he's probably not Narcissism, but some disorder, probably strange for him, because if you think about it, I hold the power, I didn't think of it, I'm the one still married, I've no children, I have a good job, a social butterfly his description. But it doesn't give him the right to smash up my house, and in a way, I'm glad he has done it now, not when I'm married to him.
So, I have spoken to my solicitor, partner has no legal rights over my house, he may try it, but the house is jointly owned with my estranged husband and so whatever he's paid into it, he said he would struggle proving, that 90.00 per week pays for the house, every bill, plus all the work I've just had done, paid for by me and my parents, plus the 15,000 holiday that I've bought for him, the kids and my nephews so he has no leg to stand on with that. He said the money he puts in is a real offence to me.
I've spoken to my alarm and security man and he is sending me info to change the alarm number.
My insurance can change locks, but where I work I've access to lock Smith's, but I want to keep professional out of it.
I will tell my friends and family, but right now, I have to plan all this carefully.
My only friend who knows, has said the same, that I need to be very careful but the sadness and grief I'm feeling for my beautiful dad who is fighting for his life, I'm the person I am today because of his passion and strength even my amicable split with my husband is down to me being so grounded because of my dad. But this grief, my recent counseling has made me think of my direction, and I do not intend to stay with my partner, I'm too old to mess about, I've been through too much to just settle. I also do believe that he took advantage of me 3 years ago when I was so down, one minute I was down, left my hubbie, next I'm being swept off my feet with child hood sweetheart which also was discussed in my counselling too!! Sorry to go on, you will not believe how much each and everyone has helped me out.
Although you don't know me and there's always a few sides to a story, I've been as honest as I can be.
I can't stay with him for the children, for one they aren't mine, but I've loved them like mine so I hope that his ex will help me with that.
Whilst I'm under the grief, I am seeing for myself how literally robotic he is, he said he doesn't understand my grief, blames it on the fact that he thinks he's got aspergers I just think he's not got any love in him. So girls, I will be leaving him, you have given me some strength yesterday and today to help me think. My next will to put it into action, sort out what I want and do it......wish me luck Xx