There are hundreds of reasons that H and I should separate...but now that he's realised and acknowledged this and said we need to work out how to divide the money (no specific mention of divorce) I feel an overwhelming need for him to understand how I have felt in the relationship and how I don't think he's tried to change things - he hasn't taken up any offers of counseling, etc.
H wants me to act, feel, be a certain way and I have recently refused to play along, I got a a job without his permission and it's gone downhill from there. He's randomly gotten angry with me for things, not violent but shouts at me, expects preferential treatment and gives me the silent treatment if for example I go to an evening function on a topic that I find interesting and he doesn't even though I invite him and he tells me to go without him.
He recently started comparing me to a mutual divorced woman friend and I think he has had his head turned a bit - I'm sure nothing has happened between them but I truly think he's gone to her for advice on divorce. It feels weird as I've wanted to divorce him in the past but he's refused, I sidelined the whole issue and just concentrated on work. Now he's got a new 'friend' - he told me he saw how good things could be and realised how bad I was making him feel.
I know I should grab this opportunity and run with it! But I'm sad all of the sudden! I've been reading up on narcissism and think he is one. Is he, after years of me being his narcissistic supply, discarding me?