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How to open up to new man?

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Bluebellsagain · 08/05/2017 09:28

If you have serious trust issues how do you open up about something personal and important (that would have an effect on a romantic relationship) to someone you really like who likes you, and who you think (going by evidence thus far) is a good person, but who you've just been in the fun stage of things with? I was in an EA relationship then a string of flings with men who basically took advantage and I feel like it's made me switch off my ability to open up.
I'm not usually like this, but with this man I feel paralysed. But I don't think it's him, I think it's me. I'm scared of him walking away and I'm so angry I still find it so hard to assert myself and be myself in relationships.

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Chucklecheeksagain · 08/05/2017 09:52

It's your responsibility to sort out your own emotional state before you embark on a new relationship. And I say that as someone who has been in your position.

If your past is going to effect this relationship it's very unfair to put the onus on him. Have you been to counselling regarding the EA? Without getting to a healthy place your problems of the past will keep manifesting themselves. You owe it to yourself to begin a relationship in an emotionally strong position xx

Bluebellsagain · 08/05/2017 09:56

It's not a problem as a result of my past, it's something about me.

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