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What do you think this behaviour is all about??

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Annahibiscuits · 07/05/2017 21:08

I am going away with work tomorrow for a week (well 4, but back at weekends so only a week at a time). It has been planned for months. XH is looking after kids first half of the week and my parents, the 2nd half

So, today I told CH what time I was leaving in the morning and it was as if it was the first time he had ever heard of it...asking me m loads of questions about what he had to do, how long I was going for, what time he had to pick up dc/from where (it's very straightforward...from school! And same everyday, not complicated arrangements), what food was he going to feed them/where is it, where's their uniforms, etc etc etc

It's really really irritating. He always behaves like this and it drives me mad. It doesn't matter how many times I tell him or how far in advance. I have even tried writing things down. But he always makes out, I have sprung things on him/not explained things properly/fully

He is not stupid. What is it about??

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tallwivglasses · 07/05/2017 21:43

It's obvious what it's about! When you first mentioned it (and presumably subsequent times) it was an abstract concept, low on his list of priorities. Now it's a reality. Ha! Let him sweat. It won't do the DC any lasting damage Wink

SheldonsSpot · 07/05/2017 21:46

Notify him of dates and times by email in future, and if he asks stupid questions about what to feed them, etc, look blank and simply say "I don't know".

He's a grown man, he can figure this shit out.

tallwivglasses · 07/05/2017 21:48

Just to add, my guess is he'll be calling on your parents before his time is up. Warn them to be unavailable. Enjoy your trip Wine

Annahibiscuits · 08/05/2017 00:15

Do you reckon it's just that simple?? It's just nuts....Why let yourself be so unprepared? I always feel as if he makes it as difficult as possible/makes me feel like the kids won't be properly be looked after, so I won't go. Except I know they WILL be looked after, of a fashion.

Parents always on stand-by tall, he has been known to just not turn up

I fancy a little experiment, whereby he doesn't NEED to do 'childcare' ever. See how long it is before he WANTS to see them Hmm

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