Feel physically sick and don't know what to do

[AlliEverwantedx]

Earlier on my daughter came running up the stairs because my partner had fallen asleep on the sofa, in her hand was his phone she was watching a film, I took the phone off her and had a look through before anyone bashes me I did it because since we got back together late last year I wasn't allowed the pin anymore. Whilst we were split we were still seeing each other but he moved out, always said we were gonna get back together I was always asking him when he said let's wait and see how we get along. I was basically dragged a long like an idiot.

So tonight I went through his phone and seen he'd been chatting to girls on tinder 2 days after we split and he moved out!

I don't know what to do, we are supposed to be going on holiday in 3 weeks!

Simple: LTB.

You looked at his phone, you don't trust him...this is not a difficult situation to decipher...you don't trust him, and he has been girl shopping online while you were apart. Presumably he found the world of newly separated dating too difficult so plumped himself back on your sofa...leave him for someone who makes you feel special, or be single until you find someone who you don't feel the urge to check their phone.

Admit it, you were desperate to get into that phone because you knew?
I don't blame you at all.

There were no messages from recently. But I feel so shocked and angry at how he could do this to me.

I dont know what to do regarding the holiday, I don't know weather to tell him I know and show him the messages, (I screenshot them and sent them to my phone and deleted it off his) Or go on holiday first as my little girl is excited. I've recently started work which I'm glad about now this has come up thank god!

Another thing we are due to go holiday clothes shopping soon, which is being used with my wages I would really begrudge buying him a load of clothes!

Tell him money's a bit tight and you already all have clothes, so you're not buying new.

Better still - dump the lying cheating shit, and take your daughter on holiday without him.

Why would you buy his clothes?

Oh and LTB.

All of the holiday is in his name, else I'd love to do that .* *

I really don't know what to do. He's woken up and I haven't said anything. Normally I completely freak out and go mad. But I feel calm just a bit shaky.

The girl messaged him saying "what happened to the baby mumma"... he replied
"turned into a physco"

The horrible thing is too when we split and I was feeling all shit, when we got back together I was feeling really paranoid and I thought it was the medication I was on that was making me feel that way, so I got taken off them!

I'd have to buy his clothes as he's had a few days off work and won't be paid on that week.

I'm sat here now thinking of all the shitty things he does that annoy me, and how young I am to be putting up with this shit.

He doesn't need clothes. I know some people have a bit of a thing of buying holiday clothes, but I'm sure he doesn't need them.

Save the money you would have spent on clothes (for all of you) and make do - and spend the money saved on a short trip with your daughter. Depending on her age, find an appropriate reason why you can't go.

You simply can't go through with a holiday with a disrespectful cheating shit like him.

Baby mummy turned psycho?

ARSEHOLE!

LTB

The Holidays in his name, I presume he paid for it? Then I'de fuck him off, what if your dd had seen the messages, oh what fun that would have been.

I'de act up to the psycho label and fuck him off out the door

A person that truly loves me wouldn't do this would they?

Guilty yeah he did pay for it, are you saying that as in go as he paid Or don't give a fuck as he paid?

But you said you were split up at the time?

I hate to be that person but think Ross and 'we were in a break '

He told her they were getting back together. And he told other women that she had "turned psycho".
Plus there was a reason they split in the first place...

So even if you take the line that they were split up - he really doesn't sound like a good catch, does he?

OP, no. A person who loves you would not split up with you and string you along about getting back together all the while putting out feelers on tinder.

My guess is even before the split and these women, there were reasons a-plenty not to be with him.

It's only a holiday and one you won't really enjoy because you will not be able to relax. And that is the whole point of a holiday isn't it?

He moved out, but I always thought we were seeing each other still in a sense, I'd mention when are you gonna move back in etc and he'd be like we'll see how we get a long. He come round once and we slept together, he actually stayed a couple of nights.

A couple of months ago we fell out and he started oh I can't be assed with this, so went off to pack his stuff, then bursts into tears because he can't leave. I cannot believe how he can be like that but 2 days after splitting up last year he does that.

We used to bicker a lot about silly things, but recently I've felt like we are so much better and have been getting on great.

He paid for it so don't give a fuck, honest you owe him nothing, kick his arse out, use his clothes money for a trip for you and dd.

Should he go up the wall, say take one of the girls from tinder what a wankbadger

Your completely right elephant I don't want to start drinking and mention it while we are away, but I also don't want to let our dd down either. She's been watching videos of planes taking off and landing all this afternoon (first time on one) and I don't know what I'd say to her

Last year all we probably needed to do was have some space away from each other and he's actually chosen to throw it all away while I was sat at home crying probably.

Oh and get an sti check op, teach ya dd how not to,take shit in relationships too 💐

I would leave him. He hasn't been honest and I think deep down you had suspicions.
Is he still in Tinder?

Your DD will cope without a plane ride forever if her DM is safe and stable.

No he's not on it now, I found the messages on his fb to his friend.