How do you tell 3 and 4yr old that daddy's moving out?

[longwaytogoandabitfurther]

what do we tell them? The older two are easy but the lo's what do we tell them?

Stress how much you both love them but you and dh don't love each other anymore ? Never going to be easy [hug]

but their babies - how much do they understand?

Imo i think a four year old could comprehend the 'love' bit but agree don't think they will really understand what going on. However we know children are very resiliant when they need to be. Hope someone else comes on with experience of this for you.

hi longway - sorry its come to this
I know we were going through a similar situation at the same time.

my advice is to be truthful
just say as Lilyloo suggests that daddy still loves them but isnt going to live at home anymore
explain that sometimes mummys & daddys dont want to live together anymore

we told my children to begin with that daddy had left because he wanted to be nearer work but I think it confused him (he was 3 1/2 at the time)

he still is confused sometimes - he asked me the other day "if you divorce yourself will you leave me?"

you just have to show them with actions that you love them & try not to argue in front of them

my prayers are with you xx

He moved out this morning I thought he was going to come home after work to pick some more stuff up but I loaded the car this morning and that was that.

I didn't think he had said anything to the lo's but dd got in the car and said Daddy's going to a new house.

Just want to sit here and cry and can't because I have to show older two that we are ok. So instead I have sorted all the cd's out, put his in carrier bags for him to take tomorrow when he comes to look after lo's so I can take bigger two to counselling and singing practice.

dont know what to say but am sending you [hugs]

CAT me if you want to chat off MN xx

I hope theres someone who you can let all this out on when the kids have gone to bed. You need some release too after youv'e sorted the kids out. Thinking of you x

ha ha at getting kids off to bed - keep saying to older two i'm going to bed soon so maybe you should be thinking of going too.

Teenagers who'd have them?

opps forgot to say don't think I can cat but have got msn

Poor you didn't realise they were teenagers how difficult!