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Birthday with someone new

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user1494029587 · 06/05/2017 03:40

If you start dating someone (2/3 dates) and your birthday comes up, should the person you're dating acknowledge it and buy you a present/take you out? Should you invite them to a night out with friends?

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WrittenandGrown · 06/05/2017 03:44

Yes and yes.

PamelaFlitton31 · 06/05/2017 04:32

I would definitely acknowledge it with a card, present etc but not sure about the night out with friends. I probably wouldn't do that but unless they'd already met.

CelestialFox · 06/05/2017 04:45

It's good form for them to acknowledge it, whether you feel up to introducing them to your friends then is personal preference.
On one hand it might overshadow your birthday and become more about the new partner, but equally could be less pressure for them to meet your friends when you're all busy celebrating.
Flowers

TokenGinger · 06/05/2017 09:55

IMO, no. At date 2/3, it's very likely that either one of you could still be dating other people. I'd only be buying a card/present/meal for somebody I'm exclusive with, and who's not potentially getting that from 2-3 other women.

ComtesseDeSpair · 06/05/2017 11:05

It would be nice for them to wish you happy birthday and bring a card for you on your next date. I wouldn't expect (or give) a present and I wouldn't invite or expect to be invited on a night out with friends: two or three dates isn't "meeting each other's friends" territory IMO, you might not be exclusive and you're probably not sure it's going to last behind another two or three dates.

Personally, I always said a very firm "no presents, no fuss" to men I'd newly begun dating around my birthday. I didn't want them putting effort and money into trying to impress me with the perfect gift when I wasn't certain I wanted things to go between us.

jouu · 06/05/2017 14:46

Acknowledge, sure. I wouldn't expect a present (they can't know you well enough at that stage to even know what to get you imo. But then I hate being given standard tat for a birthday), or a card (mostly because I think cards are annoying though). perhaps they could pay for the date closest to my birthday, at most.

I wouldn't invite them to a do with friends at that stage, again because I'd barely know them by then.

MatildaTheCat · 06/05/2017 15:20

I think it really depends on the level of connection you are both feeling. I would give a small gift and card but nothing hugely personal.

With friends it very much depends on whether you think the new bf/gf would fit in and have fun. If not have a think about why not.

scottishdiem · 06/05/2017 15:24

A card - probably yes.
A gift - unlikely but definitely under £10.
Friends - nope, too early.

StealthPolarBear · 06/05/2017 15:30

When did "non exclusive" become a thing? I'm 37 and feel like I must be about 100

Embolio · 06/05/2017 15:34

Me too Stealth! (I'm 38) ... god help me if I'm ever back on the market Wink

OhhBetty · 06/05/2017 18:03

My ex and I had our first date on my birthday! He wished me a happy birthday and brought me some beautiful flowers which was lovely. After 3 dates definitely no night with friends but I don't like to mix those parts of my life until I'm more sure of things.

TurnipCake · 06/05/2017 18:12

I was in this situation with my OH. He bought me card and a box of chocolates and came to the restaurant I had booked with my friends

Princesspinkgirl · 06/05/2017 22:58

I was with new dp for 2 months when my birthday came up he took me away for a weekend

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