Mental Helath

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I'm wondering if I've taken on more than I can handle? It's been 5 and a half years. I have 5 children, 2 are mine 3 are my partners. I would say the partner is an abusive ass who doesn't even know he is, he's repeating the same pattern his mum did to him which he's doing to his children but he can't see that.

I now have 2 step children with emotional problems in different ways. My partner from my perspective is suffering from depression too, she's been through a lot don't get me wrong. I'm just now feeling after all this time that I can't do it anymore. I'm no saint I have my problems too but the thing with me is I try to solve everyone else's problems 1st and forget about mine and I'm at a stage whereI realise I can't do that, it's not my job.

I feel selfish for thinking I just need to keep my sanity and my children's sanity and forget about everyone else. There is only so much I feel I can do. If I'm not sane, how am I supposed to make sure my children are sane. I'm trying my best.

I literally don't know what to do any more, there is so much going on that I need to deal with. Work, life money, partner, step kids, children and selfishly and guilty I'm just thinking what about me??

Any thoughts are welcome

Sorry I meant ex-husband of the step children

Run for the hills and take your kids. You need to look after yourself in order to look after your kids. You will grind yourself down until you are exhausted and you won't be any use to anyone

You're absolutely right OP, your sanity and the wellbeing of your DC comes above all else and it does sound as though you're at breaking point. Save yourself (and your DC) while you can

Put your children first and get the hell out of there. There is no excuse for exposing them to that. Your children are your only responsibility. Run.

You threw the towel in...with good grounds...look after you and yours...run, life is too short for this.