Relationship problems

[HurtAndHopeless1]

So there's always been arguments between me and my partner but they've gotten worse. I have Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder with a depressive episode. Sometimes when we argue my partner tells me I'm in the wrong and I really don't know I am, I tell him that it is due to my illness in which he replies that it isn't and it's just my personality. Sometimes during an argument he will retaliate in calling me names, that has been happening for a while. Yesterday I confronted him about calling me names and how its emotional abuse, he said it's not emotional abuse if it's during an argument, he also said I get him angry so he says it and I have something on him, which is definitely not true, I wouldn't want to be called names especially as it makes me cry. Today we had another argument and I put my head down on the sofa and because I didn't answer him when he spoke to me he grabbed me by the upper arm and tried to pull me to look at him and because I didn't he gave me a little push back, I really don't know what to do. I love him so much, maybe he's right that it's all me

You could be a real pain in the arse but and it's a huge fucking but, no one has the right to man handle you and call you names.

This is who he is and you can't 'make someone see' if he doesn't want to reflect on let alone, acknowledge his behaviour. Stop asking the wrong questions 'why does he behave this way?' or 'is it me'? The only question you need to ask and have the potential to answer is, 'why do I let him treat me this way'?

Your partner is a bully and like all good bullies he will beat you with the nearest and most convenient stick and in your case, that's your MH.

In short, you can't stop him being a nasty piece of work but you can and should, limit your exposure to him (LTB) before he damages your mental health further.

The balls in your court.