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Just too much

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ByronBaby · 04/05/2017 06:00

I separated from my husband of 15 years, 25 years together last year. I recently discovered he was involved with someone else, most likely emotionally, all along. I am a teacher and he is on the board of governors. I was also on the board, although I have recently taken a leave of absence as I cannot stand being around him and listening to him undermining me and my work in meetings. The head teacher has done nothing about this, despite my raising this a number of times. However, it feels like he is still around my workplace all the time. I am always bumping into him (he publicly blanks me) and I just want some space from him to get on with my job. I would love him to resign but it doesn't look like this is going to happen. I am on edge all the time and feel so unsupported. Clearly the best thing would be to get a new job, but jobs are thin on the ground and I need to be earning to support myself and the kids as he doesn't help at all. It is not me who is fooling around, nor me who has lied and deceived and yet I feel like I am being punished.

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Walkacrossthesand · 04/05/2017 07:29

Why is he around your workplace all the time? I'm on the governing body of a school, we don't need to be popping in all the time! Does he have another role at the school, or is he manufacturing reasons to go there purely to wind you up?
If the latter, why not just blank him right back? Ignore, ignore, ignore as the saying goes!

kissmethere · 04/05/2017 08:49

I agree, ignore. What ever is going on with him with regards to being at your work place you should establish territory so to speak. Is he a teacher there as well?

isitjustme2017 · 04/05/2017 14:30

All you can do is try to rise above it. I know this is easier said than done. It must be hell having to still see him, and having him interfering with your job. Surely people must see he is undermining you for his own personal gain, if they know he is your ex!! I'm sure no-one takes him seriously.
If it gets really bad and is affecting your job, can you not approach an HR department (sorry not sure how education works) or put something more formal in writing to the head-teacher which can't just be ignored. Its technically bullying in the workplace.

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