Pregnant?

[Ashamed123]

NC for this as I'm so ashamed.

I'm in my late 30's and should know better.

I broke up with my boyfriend a few weeks ago - we'd been trying for a baby so have not been on any hormonal contraception. We'd been arguing a lot and decided we'd best part. Anyway, I was upset and went for some drinks with a male friend of mine (as I've done many many times before) but this time we went completely overboard and slept together without any protection... I thought about the morning after pill but due to work etc the soonest I'd get it was 3 days later anyway. I put it to the back of my mind as I'd been trying for a baby for a year with my ex and nothing was happening so I may be infertile and too old!

But now my period is 9 days late and I'm so worried. There were only 2 days between the last time I slept with my boyfriend and my friend so there'd be no way of reliably working out who the dad would be.

I've heard that your body can get used to your partner's sperm and when you sleep with someone new it's different... is there any truth in this? I've just bought a test to use tomorrow with FMU but my head's mashed right now, just needed to share my concern and utter shame with someone

Would you be happy being a single mother?

Is there a chance you would get back with your BF? If so, I'd personally terminate.

It depends on how much you want a baby and your desire to go it alone.

Didn't your friend think about contraception either?

Do you have other DC's?

It all depends on what you want. Would you want to get back with Ex or would friend step up as a father of child was his? Could Ex possibly have fertility issues?

Would you be ok as a single parent?

Don't be ashamed, stuff happens.

Hold your horses until you do the test. It might still just be stress making you late.

If you are pregnant, you can do a dna test eventually. Since you're not with either guy, make whatever decision you want about whether to continue with the pregnancy under the assumption you will be on your own.

Surely you'd get a positive if you was too take it now without the need for FMU?

Stuff happens wasn't the brightest thing to do but it is done with. Until you see a positive there is no point stressing.

Take the test now so you have an answer. Your period can be delayed due to stress and. A relationship breakdown would certainly be stressful. You may not be pregnant. Do the test.

Don't be ashamed- things happen

But you need to know for sure one way or another. Stress can also delay periods, so it's important to establish exactly what you're dealing with asap.

Echo everyone else OP

Don't stress just now, take one step at a time, do the test and then take it from there

Would you continue with the pregnancy if you are ? Do you have any other children to consider?

It's your call x

Rather than worry about what if just take the test. Then worry about it once you know the result.

If ur 9 days late take the test now

Take the test before you stress.

I'm back! Test was negative thankfully, so must be stressed... calling doctor as soon as my period arrives to get implant back in. Thanks for all the advice, and for not tearing me apart!

Phew! Well done

Ok I'm back... my period is now 27 days late...

No sign of period (unusual) and negative tests... wtf???

Book an appointment with your GP - you might have to have a scan

I'll admit I'm very worried, will call GP tomorrow and book myself in

False negative prev tests very unusual. As a GP I'd do nothing in this scenario and wait for the next period. Usual caveat that this isn't individual medical advice to the OP.