i'm still trying to find my way around this site so hope ive found the right place.
my partners family are basically at the route of our rows. i'll try and keep it brief. its mainly my partners two sisters and mother. my partner gets this "selective" hearing when they say something nasty to me,never hearing them. and when my partner does hear them ,its "oh they didn't mean it like that" etc. its like this my partner does not defend me but if i say anything negative to my partner about them wow jumps to their defence . the latest happened this weekend i overheard these two sisters saying to my partner" you come and stay with us where people love and care about you" then one of the sisters walked into my room where i was sat nearly pooped herself saying "oh i didnt know you was in here" i just said yeah. but of course my partner defended them ,saying they didnt mean it like that. never heard the sister say she didnt know i was in the room . they said others things as well to me that was downright uncalled for. so how would others handle this situation? personally i dont want either of them in my house again . so how do i get this across to my partner? ive tried explaining how much they upset me but all i get is excuses for them. basically they are trying to convince my partner our relationship is toxic,that was the word they used as well saying my partner while at home was in a prison and its toxic,how much worse our relationship is ,than when we went through a bad patch. how i held my temper i dont know. but ive had enough advice please