How do you think your relationship would fare if you got really ill?

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I'm in a so-far very successful marriage (17 years), with kids. He's my best friend, we still fancy each other blah blah. I'm very lucky.

But as we get older, I wonder... what will happen if I ever get really ill?DH is very impatient with illness. I have about 48 hours to get better when I get unwell, before his patience runs out and he gets grumpy and snappy with having to look after me. The one thing I worry about (much) in terms of the future of our relationship is what happens if (as becomes more likely now we're middle aged) I get really ill. Anyone else in the same boat with this concern?

I can Barbarian, and I do, but only if I'm lucid, which I wasn't.

That's awful Isla. As you say, you never know how you will react to something happening, but it must be devastating when the person you thought you could rely on can't or won't step up to the plate.

BlackAmerican, you're not the only one, if that's any consolation. My DS2 persuaded me to take his GF in when she was 17 because her home was abusive, and one of the abuses was treating any illness - no matter how severe - as a character weakness. She ended up in hospital as a result, poor darling. Won't say more as details might be outing.