Yesterday I heard that dbro3 and his long term partner have decided to go their separate ways. I'm sad for them all and dnephew but also a little bit relieved as they were both quite unhappy for a long time. Dbro1 got divorced 2 years ago after many years in an unhappy marriage. She moved on very quickly and he's much happier too which obviously benefits niece and nephew. Dbro2 is blissfully married with a recent dc. I'm in the midst of a divorce after 10 years together the last 2 have been pretty bad. 2 young dds.
As much as I agree you should not remain in a relationship for the sake of the children, I can't help but see a pattern in my family which i'd hate to pass on. Dm was married 3 times neither relationship was happy certainly the last 2 where I was old enough to understand the ins and outs. Perhaps the issue is within us? Sorry for the rambling, I guess I'm trying to come to terms with the end my marriage but also trying to see what part I played in it.