Failing marriage good opportunity

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I need advice ...

For a number of complex reasons I have felt over the past months that I have fallen out of love with my DP of 10 years. It is due to a number of things - me changing, a delayed reaction to him being quite unpleasant last year and the classic growing apart. We spent a lot of time together a few weeks ago which was nice enough but highlighted how little we have in common now. We discussed a trial seperation in May as a next step. Already doing counselling. After feeling really sad I was in a positive space in terms of moving on and starting the rest of my life.

But - then I got offered an amazing career opportunity abroad, which I can only take if still with dp as we have dcs. DP is keen as a way to bring us together but I am really unsure - i still feel the same about dp but would love the job. What do you advise? I am so confused.

Only take the job if you are pretty sure the relationship is going to work.
The upheaval for the family will put additional strain on you all and it would be unfair for the children to be uprooted and then your relationship falls apart.

Put the children first, if you are going to separate do it where the children have stability and support.

If you feel you can make it work be realistic about the strain it will put on your family.

You won't be happy in a job if your children are unsettled or unhappy so putting them first will guide your actions.
There are always job opportunities, this maybe isn't the right time.