Married 10 years, found out about 4 years in that my DH was messaging a sex worker in Thailand, He'd met her online, was sending her money, we had 2 small dc. He begged for forgiveness, I forgave too quickly and we carried on. Then I discovered a massive and expensive porn problem, he had a breakdown, I was busy caring for a relative with dementia, we moved house and again stupidly we just carried on. I knew it wasn't right but was so terrified of making a mistake and hurting the children. Plus up to my tits in nappies and sleep deprived.
Roll on time, one more child in the mix and our marriage is dead on the water. No sex for 3 years, certainly no trust, bad atmosphere at home. 6 weeks ago he told me he was leaving, and then backed out, so I have now ended it.
I feel really scared as he is refusing to move out and says we have to sell the house. This is my kids home and I want stability for them. My relative with dementia has now died and left me some money so I could make him an offer. I work part time and am the main carer. He earns 7x what I do. I want him out. I want a divorce but don't want it to get nasty. Not even sure what I'm asking really, just reassurance that life as a single mum with 3 dc will be fine, and eventually he will get it and leave and fuck off to the far side of fuck.