I have been a lurker for a while however I finally decided to post today as my husband just left today. I just wanted some external feedback on my situation and whether I am crazy or there is something I should/could have done differently.
Firstly I a met my husband abroad he had been deported from the UK, after a prison sentence (I know this sounds awful already). Anyway I was on holiday we clicked, and fell for him, he was quite honest with the fact he had been to prison and deported etc I guess I just believed people make mistakes etc. Anyway fast forward 8 months we got married, more due to the fact that I lived in the UK and he was abroad, I couldn't just move (my parents wouldn't have allowed me unless married) and he couldn't come over. Don't get me wrong I didn't feel pressured I genuinely thought I was madly in love and wanted to marry him. We got married and moved to the Far East together, I got a job and we were relatively comfortable, he couldn't work as it took a while to sort out his visa stuff, and jobs are pretty hard to come by in Asia unless you're an expat. Anyway did that for three years I got pregnant moved back to UK left him Asia we lived apart for about 1.5 years, as I got a scholarship to study and worked in UK, I regularly sent him money again as he had no income. I then got a job in Europe and he moved over to Europe with me 8 months ago. I fell pregnant very quickly(currently 8 months pregnant) he recently got a job 6 weeks ago and started working. That's our background now the main issues I have with him is his temper, when he gets annoyed or we have an argument he insults me belittles me, and says all sorts of things he is okay to swear at me in front of our three year old. About two months ago we had an argument as I didn't like the way he told our son off, I mean he can be a bit annoying but aren't all two year olds. So I told him not to shout at him like that and he went ballistic, this cumulated in him dragging me across the room pulling my hair, at one point I got in bed with my son to settle him and my husband jumped on the bed and stood over me, I was terrified he would kick my stomach me being pregnant and all. Anyway he apologised for that and suggested next time I could approach him in a less confrontational way but his actions were completely wrong. So we moved forward, fast forward to last week and we argued about my son being in nursery, I'm due to go on maternity so will be at home, so he said we should take him out, I said I would prefer him to continue to go as he is picking up a new language and it is good for him to go as I will be knackered with the new baby and no time for a toddler. Anyway he was pretty irate about that and said we couldn't afford it, now I agree whilst it won't break the bank I guess we could save that money, so I suggested I would do some extra online work to cover the expense. He was still adamant that we should take him out, again this disagreement deteriorated into him insulting me, apparently I am a bad mother and wife, immature (he is 11 years older) he also threatened to slap me as that wouldn't affect my pregnancy. Fast forward to this weekend he came to speak to me and said it's best if I start my maternity immediately and go back to the UK to have the baby as we cannot live together (I was not speaking to him) and he wouldn't not tolerate this, giving me three days to leave. Anyway I tried to speak to him today and said I cannot leave so abruptly my maternity is to start in two weeks, I am 36 weeks pregnant, I don't have a home in the UK ( I could stay with my mum) and that I would prefer to stay and have the baby and if he still felt like that after the baby is born we could make plans on how to deal with it. He went ballistic again called me stupid, insulting me that I don't know how to be a wife, that I have underestimated him and he will in fact leave right now and is not coming back. So he packed his bags, continued shouting insults to me, transferred £1500 from my account and walked out.