I honestly don't know which one is worse.
My husband got cross with me because I asked him not to give our disabled son too many sweets. It escalated into him saying that I was controlling and that he had had enough and ended our relationship.
The next week my friend became suddenly ill, and I drove 200 miles to be at the hospital. I got there and was on my own with her for an hour and she died in my arms. Can't get the image of her frail skinny body out of my head.
The week after I got the call that my father has died. He was terminally ill with cancer, however expected to go on for a good few months more. He died at home suddenly and my mum is now quite distressed.
If ever there were a time that I needed my husband it was now, and yet there has been no one to hug me, no one to be by my side. He's coming to the funerals which will be awkward, but I didn't want to add another 'drama' to others grief and will tell them later when the dust has settled.
Wow, how do I get through this?
Especially angry with my husband as he has left me over nothing. He's admitted he wasn't fair at the time, but now cites that he probably isn't in the right space to be in a relationship. I don't think that's a good enough reason - and upset that he didn't even give us a chance to talk it through or anything. We were actually getting on a lot better after a rough patch last year - mainly caused by his work stress and needs of our disabled child.