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Worst date you've ever been on...

84 replies

CrispPacket · 29/04/2017 23:06

For me I think it's a toss up between going on a date with a guy who made completely inappropriate sexual jokes the entire way through (I'm not a prude either!) then asked me if I'd brought any viagra with me...or the 3rd date with a guy on which I found out through Facebook stalking while him was in the loo that he was in fact married...
So just a little light hearted thread....What were your worst dates? :D

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Trickycat · 30/04/2017 10:39

Oysterbabe, that sounds like a really difficult situation. Flowers

Garlicansapphire · 30/04/2017 10:46

Arrived 20 minutes late as I couldn't find the pub. My date was already there and drinking a glass of water. When I bought a drink I offered him one but he declined. I asked him how his week had been and he said 'terrible, my whole life is terrible.' He then went into a long description about how he resigned his job and hadn't got another one and that he was a total loser. Despite me trying to reassure him or suggest that he should get counselling he just suddenly said 'I'm sorry, I shouldn't have come' and walked out.

20 minute date. I bought a curry on my way home. He later 'liked' me on another date site and I messaged him to say 'we met before and you didn't seem very happy'.

IamRonnieBiggs · 30/04/2017 10:50

This is an amazing thread (nothing to add btw)....

Mums washing machine Grin

Garlicansapphire · 30/04/2017 10:57

Another one suggested meeting at a posh hotel bar. Several things gave me signs that he wasn't meant for me:

  • he went on and on about his finances and being destroyed be his scheming XW
  • he tried to pay several times but his cards were declined
  • he went on and on about how the XW wouldn't give him blowjobs and if she had they'd still be together. He said later 'oral sex is very important to me'. I said 'obviously you've mentioned them 15 times'
  • within half an hour he lunged at me for a snog and said 'well I like you and you like me, what are we going to do about it?'
  • I had been vague and avoidant up to this point and said I needed to go. As I left he said 'it's funny I only usually like skinny girls but I like you!' . I said 'god that's so rude' and walked out and instantly hailed a taxi and left him.
He texted me later to ask if I was okay as we'd had such a lovely date but he thought maybe there was something wrong? I explained I wasn't going to see him again and he messaged me a few times after that. A while later he asked me to connect on linked in and for career advice.
ClopySow · 30/04/2017 10:57

The one who told me he was a functioning alcoholic.

The one who said "i think i've figured out why you are so shy, you've been raped haven't you"

Bluntness100 · 30/04/2017 11:11

Years ago before I met my husband by next door neighbour was dating a man and she kept saying how his brother was tagging along and they never got time together. She kept begging me to double date and eventually I agreed. Said he was really nice. Really good looking lovely guy. I never asked many questions to be honest, as I was just going along to help her out. She was in her twenties I was 19.

Anyways. They turned up in her boyfriends car. The brother, my "date" was in his forties, about five foot two and six stone wet through, and Pakistani not that it matters. I'm five eight and was wearing heels, so towered over him.

He kept looking at me like he was awe struck and saying " so pretty, you're so pretty" then he'd touch my blouse and say "this is so pretty" and then my skirt " this is so pretty" . In fact all he said was "so pretty" whilst staring at me with his mouth open. I was totally and utterly creeped out. Every time I tried to make conversation with him he would just sit and stare and respond with "you're so pretty" like he couldn't believe it and his brain had simply stopped functioning.

We got to the place we were going to and, yup, an ex was there. Sod's law. They and been boating and he was the big rugby type in his early thirties. Him and his friends called me over as I went to the loo and said "are you actually going out with that little guy" and "we are all taking bets, on whether uou are or aren't" like it was hIghly amusing, bastards.

We just looked so wrong together in the fact he was nearly a foot shorter than me when I was in my heels and physically so much smaller, and over twenty years older, and I was thoroughly creeped out as the guy was shitting himself and couldn't talk to me properly , there was zero conversation, and there was an ex who I had dated for a year sitting two tables up with his mates all watching and grinning. Needless to say we went home early and it wasn't a date I repeated.. 😂

GrandDesespoir · 30/04/2017 11:33

Possibly the one where the guy considered that telling me about the occasion he'd taken a shotgun into his parents' garden shed in order to do away with himself was appropriate small talk for a first date. He then suggested I might like to go back to his flat with him to watch porn.

Or the one where I discovered that the man I was seeing had a lodger he had omitted to mention whom I first encountered when I was wandering around his flat stark naked. I didn't consider that to be a "date" as such, after four months of what I thought was a relationship, but clearly the chap concerned didn't envisage me sticking around for long.

user1488460762 · 30/04/2017 11:49

Not me but my mum years ago started seeing someone, they had been out a few times, she said he seemed nice and then she went to his house... He had everything top to bottom decorated in disney, every room had disney wallpaper, ornaments, posters, furnishings, all disney. Even his bathroom. She made her excuses and left (he was childless)

AllRoadsLeadBackToRadley · 30/04/2017 14:26

Not a date as such- but a guy I met.

Clutzy as fuck- tripped me up with two pints in my hand.

Challenged me to an arm wrestle, then looked pissed when I won.

Boasted about the fact that he had, amongst others, albums by Shampoo and Aqua.

Said he wanted to kids me- then asked if I liked to tuen my haid left or right, so that he wouldn't bang my nose.

Smoked vile-smelling cherry flavored tobacco.

Walked me out to wait for a cab. Tripped, dragged me down with him. Insisted on CARRYING me home, as I'd sprained my ankle.

Banged on for an hour about cribbage (the card game)

Insisted on tucking me up in bed- kiss on the cheek and all!

Stayed the night on the sofa...

And never left.

We'll have been married for 11 years this September!

Fauchelevent · 30/04/2017 14:32

Clopy* did you go on a date with an ex friend of mine? He said the same thing. "I always figured you've been assaulted. You're very pretty and really closed off to me."
Shock

Huskylover1 · 30/04/2017 15:26

Met a guy from OLD, who had obviously used a fake picture. Imagine the photo was of Will Smith, but the guy turns up significantly looking more like Bill Cosby. And he was fucking late! I left after 1 glass of wine.

Another guy texted me about Butt plugs before we'd even had a first date. When I replied no thanks, he called me a fucking prude and a lot of other terrible things. The text was vile, truly vile.

This thread is making me want to lock DH up, and never let him out of my sight, he is so lovely Grin

Mermaidinthesea123 · 30/04/2017 15:50

Didn't even get to a date, first phonecall on OLD. Bloke rang me up, huffed and puffed a few times and then said he wasn't wasting his time going on a date with me if I didn't "pass" the telephone call. Proceeded to tell me how many women on OLD had totally wasted his time.
he then proceeded to tell me to entertain him with jokes and funny stores, I replied that it wasn't appropriate for a first contact and was too forced and that I'm not a professional comedian who can just turn it on and off.
He hung up.

Siwdmae · 30/04/2017 16:23

Met a guy through mutual friends. He asked me out on what I thought was a 'just friends' day out. He took me to a remote beach in Wales, very beautiful, looking badck, have been really fucking dodgy! We were talking about our mutual friends and I told him I was in love with one of them. Picnic over, he drove me home and never asked me out again.

Met a guy in the pub. We went clubbing to my favourite club, as just friends, so I thought. I went to the loo, snogged someone en route, went back and told him. He was extremely annoyed! Unless someone said it's a date, I was clueless! I didn't have much experience at dating. Blush

TheHyacinthGirl · 30/04/2017 16:28

Went out for a meal with a guy who made horribly patronising and misogynistic comments like 'this is why I go out to work and earn a lot of money, so i can take pretty girls like you on dates' Hmm
He also spent a lot of time on that date visibly messaging someone else, and then told me his ideal girlfriend would be someone 'tall and thin'. I'm 5'5 and a size 16, so not me then! I couldn't get away fast enough.
Ignored his text telling me how much of a lovely time he'd had, only to receive another one a few days later saying he couldn't see me again because he'd met someone who he'd like to end up in a relationship with. Can't say I was too upset! Grin

Empireoftheclouds · 30/04/2017 16:59

Met a guy through mutual friends. He asked me out on what I thought was a 'just friends' day out. He took me to a remote beach in Wales, very beautiful, looking badck, have been really fucking dodgy! We were talking about our mutual friends and I told him I was in love with one of them. Picnic over, he drove me home and never asked me out again. I dont quite see how he was the 'bad date' in the situation!

Emmageddon · 30/04/2017 17:23

@OutToGetYou are you in washing machine sales? Was washing clothes mechanically a hobby?

potatoesofthenight · 30/04/2017 17:24

AllRoads that made me have a soppy Grin on my face.

SixtiesChildOfWildBlueSkies · 30/04/2017 17:51

In the days before OLD it was newspaper ads, so not even a photo!

Lovely man, witty, well mannered, twinkle in his eye, etc. Met up on a 2nd date for a meal (it was my birthday). Partway through he suddenly burst into tears and confessed he'd only just split from the love of his life and that taking me out was a horrible mistake! Shock
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Chap arrived at meeting place in full on cowboy gear - stetson, chaps, spurs the lot! Grin Spoke in a Texan drawl he was from Barnsley and insisted on sliding my drink along the bar to me.....I missed it, watched it crash onto the floor then hoofed it outta there.

HappyAxolotl · 30/04/2017 18:25

Took me to his local pub, offered me cocaine. I don't even drink real coffee I drink decaff

I went out with a gorgeous Cityboy once who turned up with a sniffle. Fair enough, it was the middle of a wet winter and just about everyone I knew had been snottering for weeks, myself included. Then the first couple of loo trips I didn't take much notice but then the coke must've kicked in because from the 3rd loo dash onward he talked a hundred miles an hour, ordered loads of drinks neither of us wanted and spent more time in the bogs than with me. Only re-emerging to talk more utter shite (mostly about the size of his bonus), order yet more drink and snivel copiously.

I never have and never will take cocaine but I was still somehow feeling quite offended he didn't offer me a line! I thought that was really bad manners as he clearly had plenty of the stuff on him!

He called a few days later and asked for a second date. I told him I wasn't interested in dating a cokehead and he denied it and tried claiming he was on sinus spray! Yeah right. I don't use drugs but I have been around people who do so I'm not a complete idiot about what coke does.

JK1773 · 30/04/2017 18:26

I got a call from my former boss saying that some guy with the same surname as me had called work and left his number. Not sure who it was I called him, turns out I'd met him in a nightclub a couple of years before. He'd remembered me and what I did for a living and rang round until he found me. Was intrigued and did vaguely remember him so agreed to meet him for a drink. He got really pissed, started telling me he'd loved me over two years! When I didn't reciprocate he started yelling at me and head butted a fence in frustration outside the club. Had to stand with security staff until taxi arrived. Fortunately he did not have my number or address. Never saw him again. Worst. Date. Ever Confused

CandODad · 30/04/2017 18:33

Twenty minutes into a date a woman told me she liked it rough which I thought odd. She then went on to explain she was meaning that she had a fantasy of feel the trunk of a tree on her bare back and buttocks as she was dtd with someone.

A second invited me back to her room at uni. Told me how her previous boyfriend had hung himself and then asked if I minded a picture of him "looking at us"

Needless to say on both occasions I excused myself pretty sharpish.

TheWeatherGirl1 · 30/04/2017 19:20

Met my date in a pub, he was already completely hammered and proceeded to top up his booze levels as swiftly as humanly possible.
I went to the loo twice and was told both times to 'grab him a pint on the way back'. He'd obviously already spent all his pocket money before I arrived.
Suggested we went to a pizza place opposite (for some lovely sobering up food).
'You go, I'll wait here', he slurred.

Princesspinkgirl · 30/04/2017 19:59

TheWeatherGirl1 typical

TheBadgersMadeMeDoIt · 30/04/2017 20:12

My first ever date was also the worst. I was 16, and an 18yr old lad I'd snogged at a party asked me out. My parents were pretty strict but they let me go as long as I was back by 11 and didn't drink.

He turned up to collect me...with two of his mates. One of the mates (let's call him Joe) was driving. I ended up in the back of this old banger, being driven to a pub in the middle of nowhere, where I sat nursing a glass of coke while my date played pool with his friends all night.

At 10.30 I reminded him that I needed to be home by 11, but he said we'd just have to wait until Joe was ready because he was driving. I was feeling pretty fed up after being ignored all night...and now anxious about getting home as well.

It was gone 11 by the time Joe decided to leave. On the way home he drove like a lunatic in dark, narrow country lanes and we ended up crashed into a hedge. I had to help push the car back onto the road...and then it wouldn't start. I was pretty frantic by this time...we were miles from anywhere, it was long before mobile phones and I knew my folks would be going spare. We were rescued by another of my date's pals who happened to be passing and gave us a lift.

I got home over an hour late, greeted by my stony-faced DM, who grounded me for a month and banned me from seeing this guy again. The latter was no hardship - I'd thoroughly gone off him. But the grounding meant that I missed the 18th birthday party of a lad I really did fancy.

Nearly 30 years later, that still smarts.

WouldRatherHaveWine · 07/05/2017 13:42

At the age of 16 I was taken on a date, he said he'd take me for a candlelit meal. He took me to McDonald's drive through with a tea light on the dash

A blind date when I was 19 was so horrific I said I was going to the loo and left via the back of the pub. Unfortunately he had also decided to sneak off and we very awkwardly bumped into each other (literally) outside.

And another was ridiculously boring and talked about the poor hygiene levels of hand dryers. We have just split after nearly 10 years Grin

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