On Friday I had a problem with 14 yr old DS. I asked him to do his h/w and he got me by the scruff of the neck and threw me into the bathroom. He's been violent towards me before and I've always struggled to get support from my dh. On Friday I called my dh as usual and of course he called my ds who gave him a sob story and my dh told me I should go home and talk to him as he's really upset and said I'd been unfair! I got really angry. I'd stormed out of the house by this time and was driving around aimlessly. My dh was on his way to work and promptly turned around. Anyway I eventually went back to the house and things this morning seemed to get back to normal. Still no apology from DS though.
This evening I took a call from my b in-law. He started the conversation by saying he don't want to take sides and that he felt really sorry for us. WTF!!! so I asked him what he was talking about. I thought he was talking about the way ds treated me but no - he had taken a call from his father who was livid with me. It seems my dh had phoned him and complained about me - I'm not too sure what about. I asked my brother-in-law what I'd done exactly and he wouldn't tell me!! He just said that his father was really angry.
I get on really well with my father in-law and I'm really fond of him. Now I feel really uncomfortable. I don't know what's been said behind my back and now it has probably gone right around the family and I don't know what to do.
My stand is that violence should not be tolerated and we should, as a family, all be standing against violence in all circumstances. As it stands my ds has been violent towards me and yet I'm being punished.
A friend of our asked my ds over to play 2 days ago and my dh insisted in the morning that he should go for a play despite the way he'd behaved towards me. I said he shouldn't go to which he said that he would drive him if I wouldn't. I just don't get it. It would seem that in my household violence is totally acceptable.