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Think me and dp are over!!!!

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Tosadtocry · 12/03/2007 14:57

Since we had our dd, me and dp have not been coping well as a couple, we are arguing all the time one because he neva helps with dd and two im always moaning at him because of it!!

Today hehas textme and says he wants to move out and the land lord is coming to see if he can end the contract early, how am i suppose tocope on my own and where am i going to live, ive got know where too go

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Flamesparrow · 12/03/2007 14:59

Oh no Is there no way you can work it out? Did you know things were this bad??

Tortington · 12/03/2007 15:01

go to council they will provide you with emergency accomodation.

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Tosadtocry · 12/03/2007 15:03

we had a talk a few days ago and i thought we had started to sort things out i guess not

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LilyLoo · 12/03/2007 15:15

Don't see how he can just arrange to go and cancel contract on house he has to realise he has responsibility to your DD.

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Tosadtocry · 12/03/2007 15:21

well it easy for him he can go back to being a single man and can afford to live on his own,no thought to how im going to cope on my own with a child i cant afford to stay in this house on my own anyway

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Babbit · 12/03/2007 15:25

Sorry to hear this. How old is your dd? I think a lot of couples go through an adjustment phase when they have a child. It may become easier, if he can hold on...

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Tosadtocry · 12/03/2007 15:26

she is 17weeks old

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Babbit · 12/03/2007 15:38

Does he feel he can wait a bit longer to see if things settle down? It really is a stressful time, but as I said I think a lot of people have difficulties after a child is born, and it would be a shame if you split at this time. I think the stats show that a lot of couples split within a year of their first baby, and I can honestly understand why, but please try for a bit longer as you have some magical times ahead. These first months are difficult but I promise it will improve.

stressteddy · 12/03/2007 15:41

Sending a hug tstc

huuuuug

me23 · 12/03/2007 15:52

I'm sorry youare going through this. I can't believe he is prepared to just leave you and dd with no-where to stay, this is awful Ask your landlord if he will accept housing benefit, you will be entitled to it as a lone parent, are you on beneifts? if so they will pay all or pretty much all of your rent and council tax.

DeviousDaffodil · 12/03/2007 15:57

What a wimp! Everyone goes through this when a child first comes along, I would have divorced DH a t the drop of a hat!
He is letting you and DD down so badly by just walking out on his resposibilities. It is so easy for men to do this, and even easier I am sorry to say when not married.
I am so angry for you.
Approach benefits agency/ housing etc to find out your entitlements and citizens advice. If he won't help financially you will have to get the CSA involved.

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