Sat here secretly seething!

[Tillydog2003]

Me and the other half have a 15 month old son, he is super active, easily bored and I spend the whole of my days off out and about with him, parks, play gyms, playing outside in the garden, interacting with him, DP comes home from work and sticks the tv on and just expects the little lad to sit and watch tv with him! It pisses me off! He finishes at 4pm on a Friday so he has an extra hour to spend quality time with his son, turn the fucking tv off and do some proper playing. I've just made us a brew and sat down and I want to throw his coffee over him. Just needed a rant I think. Yes I have already said it's not acceptable for him to come home from work, stick the tv on and ignore us all, he's now sheepishly on the floor playing with the little un, but I shouldn't have to encourage this. I work 3 full days and still do all the shit I have to do on my working days 🙄

Thing is, a bit of TV etc is fine but there's a limit to how much is ok in a day (admittedly a somewhat flexible limit depending on how tired/ill mummy was) I'd be annoyed at him effectively burning through that quota in the hour he has.

And the most exasperating thing about that is there's no way to say it without sounding controlling and a bit uptight about tv times...

my mum used to come in from work, and curl up in a chair with tea newspaper and a cigarette. We weren't allowed to disturb her for 30 minutes.
After that she gave us her full attention.

OK, we were teens, but the point is that when she got in form work she needed a bit of head space to decompress the day. I think a lot of people are like this. So I would suggest you talk to dh, find a balance between him needing to sit down for 20 minutes with a cup of tea, and your son's need for time with his Dad.

Having said all that.... my good friend had a baby who needed holding 24/7, she screamed when she was put down for the first 6 months. Her dh used to walk in from work and she would hand the baby to him, he went and sat on the sofa, she went and made a cup of tea and then did ANYTHING that wasn't holding the screaming baby. At that stage there was no space for 20 minutes me time for dad!