My husband is huffing with me because..

[fireflyfairy2]

Last night when he came to bed I said another mans name.

He turned on the lights & I said "Oh xxxxxxx" then got up [still asleep] went to the toilet, & got back into bed again. It is obvious to me I was still sleeping when I said this mans name.

Dh told me this morning when he was huffing & I asked him why.

The name is the name of a guy I went out with years ago & we did have strong feelings for eachother. Circumstances etc meant we never made a go of it, but I have no feelings for him at all!!

I haven't seen him in years & the name I think was probably me talking in my sleep.

Dh says that it was my subconscious talking & I still fancy xxxxxxx.

Tosh! We have been together for 12years & I haven't as much as looked at another man!!

How long can he huff over nothing???

I have admitted that I would be annoyed if he said another woman's name though..

"I have admitted that I would be annoyed if he said another woman's name though"

Well, exactly.

I've been in the exact same situation as you, and as unfair as it feels (you were asleep, after all - it's not like you meant to upset him!) I think you'll just have to put up with him being in a mood about it and try to reassure him as much as possible. Maybe point out that people talk and dream about all sorts of nonsense in their sleep - it's just brains misfiring randomly.

It's not as though you said the other name in an intimate situation, you said the name because you were irritated. I often call people by other names (when awake) if I'm annoyed with them, no one has ever suggested that it's for Freudian reasons.

Well, even though he refused to talk to me he made me breakfast & bathed the kids... he's very confusing.

Exactly, I often call ds & dd each other's names... he said this doesn't count as I use their names on a daily basis.. he said it seemed so natural to say XXXXXXX name.

I'll probably have to try & make it up to him. Thing is, I never thought of him as a jealous type before.

Awwww

I would be p*ssed off with you too

Do those things to him he likes, and he'll soon get over it

DH called me by his exW name while in bed...and we weren't sleeping

I huffed a bit and made fun of it, I was 18!

I've also asked DH to file a batch of referral forms. Taking my job to seriously huh!

Hey, you were asleep...It means NOTHING.

Tell him you love him alone and to get over himself.

Well, PIL have just came & have taken the kids down to their house for an hour or so... usually we would leap into bed [so mature} but he's glued to the telly

I guess I have lots of grovelling to do!!!!

You are right its a silly thing for him to be mad about

Yeah, but I can kinda see his POV, the more I think about it. Maybe I will go & try to make it up to him.

I can see why he would be upset, but we dream about people from our past all the time and it doesn't necessarily mean that those dreams are sexual. I would think that you didn't call your DH by another mans name but were simply talking in your sleep...