Male opinions please

[jeesie]

Any males been the 'other guy'
How did u feel when you found out the lady you liked and had been flirting with wasnt single.

Ive been told by her shes in an unhappy relationship and is only in it for the children. I like her but i dont want to be the reason her family breaks down. And i dont want to tenpt her into doing something she may regret as i care about her

Can these things ever work? Im not even sire how id feel lf she were to leave this guy to date me.. As i think id just fee pressure then..

:-(

She hasnt cheated with me though?!

We started to talk she started to develop feelings and shes trying to do the right thing ending her relationship.. We cant help who we fall for.. Why am i getting involved with this.. Cos i like her.. Of course if i liked someone without the complication it would be more ideal. But i cant help who i like either

doesn't matter if she hasn't cheated on you... yet. The point is she didn't cheat on her husband (afawk) in the early days either when all was happy.

If you know she is with someone, then the best thing to do is to stay well away until she's not.

Do you really want to start a relationship under cloak and dagger?
Sneaking around?

Everyone deserves to be in a loving, caring, respectful, fair, safe and equal relationship. For you. And for her.

You can't help who you like. But you can help how you deal with that. You're a free agent, and she needs to put her big girl pants on and decide how she's dealing with her marriage

I dated a women for about a month before realising she had a live in boyfriend, although not emotionally invested by that stage it was still a kick in the stomach as actually quite liked her and felt a bit used afterwards. Got the whole 'it's complicated/difficult/relationship on its last legs/he is a shit' dialogue but I simply could not be arsed to make my life more complicated then it needed to be so moved on.

She hasn't cheated.

Op - make clear to her that if she's unhappy with her marriage then you try and make it work or to end it, regardless of the possibility of a relationship with you. Also tell her that you may not work out even if you do start a relationship.

Some people has to jump from bed to bed. Some people can't be on their own she may want to leave her marriage and jump straight into your bed and live with you. Some people don't know how to live on their own.

What living arrangements has she made when/if she leaves him?