I'm in a newish (over a year) relationship after an abusive marriage and recently have started worrying that it was too much too soon for me. As if the lack of drama and everything being easy has become too much, and at the same time I feel wrong for feeling like this. I keep asking myself if it is normal to get on all the time? I've started to constantly worry the lack of criticism from my bf means I'm not giving enough to the relationship.
I also find my boyfriend so nice that I wonder if it's just normal or if I'm not seeing his flaws. I also feel I'm not giving enough within the relationship.
My bf and I never argue and recently one of my friends said it's not normal and that everyone argues. She reckons it's healthier to have things out. I hate confrontation and find it hard to say when there's something I don't like, but my boyfriend generally picks up I'm not happy and then we talk. So we have resolved disagreements, just not argued as such. Is this OK?
Second thing is in bed he's very focussed on me and pleasuring me. I'm not complaining, but sometimes I feel I'm not doing enough for him, that it's impossible he could be satisfied with just PiV sex. I feel silly writing this as he's never expressed dissatisfaction but he never asks for anything. Is it normal? He says that seeing me enjoying it is enough of a turn on for him. Would men be happy with just that? I worry he'll turn round one day and tell me I'm boring.
My ex was sexually abusive, he raped me, and he was very controlling, also financially and emotionally. I feel sometimes that I can't cope with normality despite having had therapy, and that my boyfriend would be better off with a better woman. I have no other point of comparison than my ex for a relationship either. I'm having major wobbles today, that I should be on my own.