New boyf worried

[chocolatebunny85]

I've been with my boyf for 3 months

He's great and things are great BUT

I went to see a clairvoyant before I met him and she told me a whole load of stuff including someone called Sam will be very important in my life

We got together just slightly after and at first he laughed it off

Ever since we've been together he worries about me meeting someone called Sam?!

If I say I wanna join the gym he worries I'll meet a Sam
If I say I'm going to look for a new job
He worries someone called Sam works there
If I say I'm going on a night out
You know what I'm going to say? Yep sam Sam Sam

We've had an argument about it at the weekend because I've had enough explaining that I'm very happy
With him, I'm not looking for anyone else as I'm happy with him! He doesn't get it and it's starting well it's already really grating on me
It's insulting me as a women that I would just get Sam into my life !?

Help!

Don't reply then !

Well that escalated quickly!

Ha!

The thread turned "interesting" after all

oh thay made me laugh!

Fucking hell, not sure AF is the 'sad bitch' tbh

*that

Pretty sure i cant be a bitch Op

Good god, never known a chocolate bunny to be so fucking rude!

Personal attacks aren't allowed on MN.

Personal attacks aren't allowed on MN
To be fair, AF called the OP a loser first...

That's not a personal attack though, just a fact.

I think your boyfriend is probably just really insecure and this happens at the beginning of relationships - its annoying he is doubting you. Just ask him where his fear comes from and try not to judge him.

If you like him enough there are ways you can make him feel secure- im sure he is not
Controlling but if you give him time im sure you will find out.

He's a controlling insecure dick. He probably would've found something else to moan and control you about,but honestly you gave him the perfect out with the whole Sam thing,especially when you made it clear you believe in that shit.
Break up,grow up and stop wasting money on nonsense.

No, Mashy86, that is not normal at the beginning of a relationship. What is normal is that people in the first flush of love want to do what they can to make the other person happy- you don't achieve that by making her feel guilty about simple everyday things like going to work or to the gym.

Leave him and seek Sam. It is your destiny.

haffiana so true

Is Sam the name of the man running your future anger management course perhaps.

Mashy it doesn't happen at the beginning of good, healthy relationships.

I'm not sure of the wisdom of giving someone who is behaving badly the further opportunity to continue to behave badly.

No one is perfect.
And some people are worth it

I'd worry that he was so insecure - doesn't bode well. I'd also question his sanity that he was so worried about what a clairvoyant said!

There are two sides to every story

Mashy no one is worth putting up with controlling and abusive behaviour.
This bs of you can change him belongs in fairy tales,not real life.

He doesn't sound like a great boyfriend. If he's this controlling, possessive and totally unreasonable about an imaginary person a clairvoyant told you about, how will he react when a real man you actually know flirts with you, messages you, or interacts with you in any way your boyfriend doesn't like?
If this is another holiday troll post then at least this one was comical.

Mashy you are quite right, none of us are perfect.

But continually questioning someone's movements 3 months in isn't indicative of nascent trust.