I've been lurking for a while but not yet had the courage to post. Hope this isn't too long, but don't want to drip feed.
I've been with my DP for almost 5 years, and we have a 3 year old DD. He's been a drinker since we started going out, which flew up some flags for me because I have had alcoholics in my close family. I let it go because it wasn't every night, it was only 1 or 2 small whiskeys and I know I'm oversensitive about alcohol. Over time it's become more and more, to where he and his father put away a bottle, sometimes 2 every night.
In November, I logged onto our shared computer and his Tumblr account was left open. He'd put something in his bio that set off an alarm bell and I googled it. Turns out it was his username for a hook up site. I confronted him and he claimed it was just a confidence boost, and anyway he was drunk. He deleted it and promised he'd stop drinking and get some help.
He didn't get the help, but did stop for a while. Then in February, he started drinking again. Last month, I was in bed with DD when he came up at about 3am. He woke DD and she got a bit upset so get got right in her face and screamed at her to shut up. I told him to pack it in, so he shoved me out of the bed and told me to get out. So I packed a bag and me and little one spent the next 2 nights in a hotel. At this time I got on the council list for a house.
He convinced me to come home, mostly because I had no where else to go. All my family live over an hours drive away and my mum is disabled anyway so doesn't need me on her doorstep! Since then he has been going to AA, but I again found messages on his phone to other women last week. He says he'll still do stupid things for "a while" because he's still in "drink fog".
Anyway, I have received a call today from the local Housing Association to go and view a house. I know the houses in the area and they're decent. I've accepted the viewing and will probably accept the property. I just need someone to tell me it's the right thing to do. My DSis despairs of me at this point, so I thought I'd ask strangers. I've been a real mug reading all this back, but I wanted me and my DD to be happy.