Am I being a misery?

[Sugerbones]

We have a holiday to Ibiza booked for Sept. Currently we have saved £0 for it and still have to buy passports.

I'm on income support so obviously not exactly rolling in it and DP is in alot of debt and earns minimum wage so the spending money is going to be a struggle.

Anyway he phoned me last night saying he'd seen something he thought I might like, a show at Manchester Arena in April, £30 each but we'll also need to either hire a car or buy train tickets not to mention accomodation as it's late and babysitting. I said it was nice of him to offer but does he not think we should start saving for the holiday? he said "yeah but we don't need to save every penny surely?".

A week ago he had another idea...us two and the 2 kids to go down to Birmingham for Cadbury World...I said "sounds a bit pricey.." and he said "nah, it's only £40 for a family ticket, will be about £50 to get down there on train... (£50 for 2 adults and 2 kids return?) and again I mentioned saving for a holiday...he doesnt seem to get it, is it me being a misery or am I right to want to prioritise an impending holiday that has so far got nothing saved for it?

My mum summed it up when she said "his heart is in the right place but he just doesnt think".

Opinions?

You're in a lot of debt, on income support and dp earns minimum wage. Why book a holiday to Ibiza that you can't afford? Sorry to sound a bit harsh but maybe you should lower your sights a bit!

When DH was going through one redundancy after another and we were on the breadline, we went without holidays for about 9 years. A holiday should not be something that causes stress and worry for months beforehand... it's just not worth it.

No the holiday is paid for, we can afford it but we can't afford to go on holiday AND go to shows and trips to cadbury world etc in the months beforehand!

I'm not stressing about the holiday at all, just the flaming passports but that's not even money related!

mmmmm we're not in debt, nor on income support but we can't afford holidays so we don't go.

I think your dp has money issues and perhaps you need to get him to agree to a strategy to deal with it head on. He needs to get rid of his debt before you start treating yourselves to stuff.

If the holiday is paid for, but you still have to save for spending money and fork out for passports (expensive) then no, I don't think you are being a misery. You are just being a realist and planning ahead.

Your DP does sound like he's trying to do nice things for you but needs a reality check.

x-post there!

Guess you need to talk with him and say when/how are we going to sort out getting and paying for the passports and how much spending money are we going to take with us and when are we going to save it up by??????

Def needs a reality check but ensure you don't come out of it as being described as a nag - you're not btw!