Guy pulling away?!? Help!!

[erikaa]

Im not sure whats gone wrong with this...
Met a guy around 10weeks ago.. We got chatting..things steadily got flirter.. Until we suggested we go for a drink.
He seemed keen, he asked where id like to go, and that he'd happily take me anywhere, he'd started to text me when he was out with friends and drunk too. This Saturday gone he was texting while he was out. I told him to go enjoy his night but he carried on texting until like 4am when he was bk home. It wasnt like i was forcing the convo. Anyway.. Sat i didnt hear from him in the morning which i thought was a bit odd. I text him just small talk really in afternoon.. Saying i was shattered from staying up late chatting the night before, and He didn't reply.. He was at work later in day but wasn't in the morning.. :-/ then Sunday i text him asking how his easter had been he didn't reply until today and was pretty cold with me..not flirty like usual.. Asking Me nothing back, :-/ i said if he fancied that drink this week to let me kno and he said 'i will! if im free'
I left it at that..

I'm just a but like eh!?!? Friday he was all for taking me out, and that wasnt just cos he was drunk he'd been keen before that sober too..

But now 'if i'm free!'

Do i just leave it and see if i hear from him!? Or do i ask whats up?
He's backed off the last few days and i dunno whether to keep trying with him (like act normal, keep texting like usually would, ignoring he fact hes turned cold)
Or wether to back off also!?

Help!!!

Move on, find other men to date/text/have sex with. This one isn't particularly bothered, so don't wait for him and don't chase him.

So after saying to him let me know if u fancy a drink this week i told him to enjoy his night tonight and left it at that. Ive not been needy or clingy or pushy.. Just give him the option really. and ive gone out with my friends tonight. And low and behold hes seen im out on social media and text me!! I think i'll do as u all say tho and keep it cool and not reply. Dont think i need to to be fair.. Im out with my friends.. Im not having him thinking im thinking about him and if hes bothered we can still go out later in the week anyways.

Thanks for the advice that matthew guy is great!

How convenient he texts you when he sees you're effectively unavailable - what does that tell you?

Run from him...he has more red flags than Putin! He doesn't know you, but texts you until 4am so he lacks social etiquette and boundaries that your sleep time is important. He sees you as someone who allows him to do what he likes, and you are making this easy for him by offering to see him on his terms. If you meet him, he will give you the runaround as he has player stamped all over him, and text-a-holic. When I was dating my husband, the reason I knew he was a catch was because he put me first, was keen to meet up and tried to please me. It showed that he thought I was worth the effort, and stood out from previous ex's as being a keeper.

Stop texting this guy as you are setting yourself up for serious grief. He loves the attention of texting, but I imagine his real-world conversation is 'sparkling' if he has time to text you when he is out with his mates. Remember he is probably texting a dozen girls in a massive ego boost.

You're overthinking. If I went out til 4am and had work the next day followed by family gathering I wouldn't be texting anyone either.

Sounds like you are both playing a game.

Some people just have their own stuff going on...

Red flags for me I'm afraid.

If he's texting you whilst he's out and drunk, likelihood is he's hoping you will want to hook up when he's drunk and horny. He texts you when you're out because he's hoping for the same.

If he's not interested in having a conversation with you independently of that then he's not worth your time.