I'm pretty sure I did the right thing, but need you to reassure me!

[mermaidofthewestside]

Hello Wonderful Mumsnet.
Feeling rejected & a bit wobbly.
Was dating someone for last two months. Met online.
He was complimentary & generous (expensive meals out & OTT presents) from the start. I don't normally fall for that but I did.
I'm a single mum on a tight budget but genuinely thought he was into me..
Every time we hung out he drank.
A lot.
Of expensive wine.
To the point he was totally smashed.
When we drank lots together it was mighty fun! A few times he drank when I wasn't drinking. Once I got to his house & he'd been drinking from 4pm & I got there at 8 & he was shit-faced.
A few times when he was drunk he was argumentative over nothing & defensive. I let it go. I minimised.
He was away on business last week (drinking lots in the eve) & he sent me a text I didn't understand. I asked him what it meant & he replied with
'Oh does it really need to be this difficult? & basically thanked me & said goodbye. I was really pissed off.
I went out with & lived with an alcoholic years ago & his behaviour started to remind me of my ex.
Now I have a daughter I'm not going to go there.
He texted apologising & asking me to meet him for dinner.
I said 'never'.
I went with my gut here - have I done the right thing? What would you do?

Exactly what you did, walk away now, think of your daughter. You both deserve better.

Yes, you've done the right thing, absolutely

100% right.

Well done. 'Never' was exactly the right word to use. Don't respond to any other texts and block him if possible. You've already bought the T shirt on that one.

Good for you. Sounds like you definitely did the right thing.

Sounds like you have done the right thing! Glad your alarm bells rang now rather than further into a relationship!

He's an arsehole that's frequently arseholed. I'm surprised you had to ask! Block him before he tries to worm his way back in.

Thank you everyone
tallwivglasses - Yep!
The only reason I haven't blocked him is because I feel I should return the extravagant presents & arrange when - Should I?

You did exactly the right thing. he has a serious problem with alcohol. I wouldn't stress at all about the presents. Just move on and chalk it up to experience.

Absolutely
And I wouldn't care about the gifts. Also not worth the hastle ... to return ... do what suits you but stay away

You definitely did the right thing. And balls to returning the gifts. Just move on. His loss

Definitely did the right thing op
You dodged a bullet.
Sounds like a naughty boy in adult clothing.

Stay away from drinkers. They are mentally weak.

Don't meet him or speak to him or text him ever again. Walk away and never look back.

Don't think you need to return the gifts - they were gifts, after all. Just cut him out of your life and move onwards.

Your response was perfect. Don't think about returning the gifts.

Thank you!
So glad nobody is saying 'give him another chance!'
Today I had such a fun day with my friends & daughter.
And reflected on a few moments with that guy.
Yes. I did the right thing. Amen.

Smart girl.

Yes. Inspirational reply. Hits a nerve for me also. Well done you. I love the absolute conviction of it.