I am a single mum, my son is still in primary school. 9 months ago I met a guy online, as soon I am a single mum, my son is still in primary school. 9 months ago I met a guy online, as soon as I told him I was a mum he politely told me he wasn't interested in meeting anyone with children.
I understood and that was it, a few days later I looked at his profile again, realising I had spoken to him before I closed it down. He then messaged me saying he caught me looking.
We chatted most of the night, swapped numbers and continued talking. I felt a connection to this guy instantly.
A few days later after work we decided we would go for a drink, he still made it clear that he didn't want to date somone with children, I am not sure why we met.
Since that day we text constantly and see each other one/two times a week.
This suits me perfectly, my son stays at my mums on Thursday so every thurs I see him, and if we can add another day in we do if we can't we don't. We both are happy with this.
When we are together we get on really well. I should prob describe us both. I'm needy and insecure, as much as this arrangement suits my life I want more. I want him to call me his girlfriend, I want him to introduce me to his friends and family. I want him to meet mine. He has met my little boy and they got on great. He is very independent his 34 and lives alone. His never really had a girlfriend and says he was bullied as a child that left him emotionally disconnted.
I have fallen in love with him, we have always decided that if this was to happen it ends. It hasn't ended, he also said he'd never meet me or accept that I have a child and he is fine with that now.
The problem is he says he deeply cares about me, when I'm sad he wipes he wipes my tears. He is affectionate and lovely, we have a good sex like but are happy to just snuggle and watch tv. We go out as well as stag in. But here is the big problem!! He says he doesn't think he will ever love me!! He said he just doesn't feel it and he can't settle with me if he doesn't feel it.
I sound stupid and crazy I know that! But I truly believe he does love me and he either doesn't know that is what love is, he is really inexperienced in relationships or he is to scared as his been so hurt as a child to let someone love him and love them back.
I am certain there is no one else. However he does sometimes uses dating apps, I saw a message form bumble this morning and was devastated I said, I won't be a stopping gap till the right girl comes along, that he needs to come off of there or it's over. He said he hasn't been on them for months but decided to download it as I had annoyed him last week and he doesn't have conversations with anyone, it never gets past hello.
Iv been single on and off for the past 4 years and I know how hard it is to meet someone on these apps and I do trust his telling the truth.Plus I know where he is 95% of the time so I'm Not worried about that at all.
I said I can't continue if that's how he feels and soon as I made him decide he deleted the app and said I'm more important.
My question is do I follow my head which says you've been with guys with issues before run as fast as you can even if you will feel devastated or do I follow my heart that truly believes we are good together and he will come round.
I told him I was a mum he politely told me he wasn't interested in meeting anyone with children.
I understood and that was it, a few days later I looked at his profile again, realising I had spoken to him before I closed it down. He then messaged me saying he caught me looking.
We chatted most of the night, swapped numbers and continued talking. I felt a connection to this guy instantly.
A few days later after work we decided we would go for a drink, he still made it clear that he didn't want to date somone with children, I am not sure why we met.
Since that day we text constantly and see each other one/two times a week.
This suits me perfectly, my son stays at my mums on Thursday so every thurs I see him, and if we can add another day in we do if we can't we don't. We both are happy with this.
When we are together we get on really well. I should prob describe us both. I'm needy and insecure, as much as this arrangement suits my life I want more. I want him to call me his girlfriend, I want him to introduce me to his friends and family. I want him to meet mine. He has met my little boy and they got on great. He is very independent his 34 and lives alone. His never really had a girlfriend and says he was bullied as a child that left him emotionally disconnted.
I have fallen in love with him, we have always decided that if this was to happen it ends. It hasn't ended, he also said he'd never meet me or accept that I have a child and he is fine with that now.
The problem is he says he deeply cares about me, when I'm sad he wipes he wipes my tears. He is affectionate and lovely, we have a good sex like but are happy to just snuggle and watch tv. We go out as well as stag in. But here is the big problem!! He says he doesn't think he will ever love me!! He said he just doesn't feel it and he can't settle with me if he doesn't feel it.
I sound stupid and crazy I know that! But I truly believe he does love me and he either doesn't know that is what love is, he is really inexperienced in relationships or he is to scared as his been so hurt as a child to let someone love him and love them back.
I am certain there is no one else. However he does sometimes uses dating apps, I saw a message form bumble this morning and was devastated I said, I won't be a stopping gap till the right girl comes along, that he needs to come off of there or it's over. He said he hasn't been on them for months but decided to download it as I had annoyed him last week and he doesn't have conversations with anyone, it never gets past hello.
Iv been single on and off for the past 4 years and I know how hard it is to meet someone on these apps and I do trust his telling the truth.Plus I know where he is 95% of the time so I'm Not worried about that at all.
I said I can't continue if that's how he feels and soon as I made him decide he deleted the app and said I'm more important.
My question is do I follow my head which says you've been with guys with issues before run as fast as you can even if you will feel devastated or do I follow my heart that truly believes we are good together and he will come round.