Right this is complicated!
I've been a single mum for most of dd 13 years. Had a couple of relationships but for various reasons they didn't work out.
18 months ago I met A a single dad with a very complicated relationship with mum of his children. I had recently come out of a 2 year relationship so neither of us wanted to rush into anything. Went on a date had a snog and it was all very nice.
He lives 30 miles away no family round him and dad 100% of time to 2 young children. I'm mum 100% of time to dd and although now she doesn't need babysitting I totally understood how difficult it was for him.
Anyway we spoke on phone everyday messaged each other all the time FaceTime etc but it wasn't a relationship as such but we both discussed at some point that's what we both wanted.
Got to Jan this year and he started having problems with his dd which he needed to deal with and without any explanation he disappeared.
I was upset and missed him dreadfully even though we weren't together.
After a few weeks went on a date with B nice enough guy so agreed to 2nd date. He was definitely more keen than me had a snog no fireworks but agreed to see him again. Over a couple of months we have had 5 dates and he is constantly messaging joking about booking a hotel for next date ( he is currently in a shared house and I won't have men at my house because of dd) I keep telling him that I don't feel ready to have sex but he still keeps mentioning it.
Yesterday out of blue I got a text from A very apologetic for his behaviour but it was so good to hear from him. Found out why he blanked me - begin of Feb he was away with work got drunk and slept with someone. He regretted it but didn't know how to tell me so went quiet and made things even worse.
It did hurt hearing that but seeing as we weren't in a relationship it's not like he cheated on me.
I know I need to bin B but do I take a chance with A.?
We are both 45 and surely too old for all this drama!