34, newly single and panicking I'm never going to get married and have babies

[Lillybettx]

Hello ladies,
I really need some advice.
I am nearly 34 and five weeks ago my boyfriend of 14 months left me out of the blue. I was so happy and in love but he just left, knocking me for six. He has given me so real reason, he just says he can't make me happy. I think he's having a meltdown but either way it's totally over and I have to move on.
But i don't know if I'm ever going to meet someone and even if I do I will have to be in a relationship for at least two years before engaged, then a year before wedding and then at least another year before child. So if, hypothetically, i met someone literally tomorrow, we are still looking at me being 38 before a child arrives.
I'm looking for positive experiences from other women. I don't know when is too soon or the right time to start dating again. I feel like it's too raw right now but I know that time is of the essence.
Feeling very low that my future looks so bleak.
Any advice would be appreciated.
Xx

Also, if I could go back I'd happily have found a sperm donor instead!

I'm 27 (no plans for more kids) yet if/when I do want another, I will be making sure the father is a sperm donor & doing it alone again.

Found out my ex was cheating on me when I was nearly 35. Split up. Felt hideously panicked re the future/having dc.

Met DH a few months later. I was up front quite early on re having children being my priority - alone or with the right person. We fell in love and within a year we started ttc.

I'm 39 now, we're very happily married, and I'm 36 weeks pregnant (after 3 years of problems re recurrent miscarriages).

Life pans out OP but you do have to take the bull by the horns when time is of the essence.

Good luck x

Another one who did it all quickly here. Met dh at 35 after the end of a long relationship. Married 10 months the later and pregnant 6 months after that. Had two children before 40 and still going strong 13 years later. It's absolutely not impossible but as others have said I do think you need to be proactive. Join websites, meet people, mentally put them through an interview process to see if they meet your standards because you don't want to feel like you're settling, but make sure your standards are realistic.

Was just about to suggest looking into freezing your eggs, but see it has already been suggested! Would take the pressure off, give you some peace of mind and lots of options including going it alone if need be.

Sorry to hear your boyfriend dumped you out of the blue, that's hard.

Hello! I'm now in the exact same position as original poster LillyBett....can you give us an update on how life panned out? Would love to hear!