Ok..... I'm dealing with a man child. Cycle we are in is...... narky... digs... passive aggressive comments..... these build to full blown over reaction, spit his dummy out tantrum. Followed by being blanked then for a couple of days, then when he decides to discuss it turns it round on me.... I talked down to him, or I showed him lack of respect etc etc. Then we have about a day of moping, woe is me, you don't love me anyway while he makes passive aggressive digs, oh you do love me then if you'll make me a tea.... etc etc. I am fully aware of the cycle o find myself in, I'm keeping a diary of incidents etc and building a picture. My question is this..... currently I ignore all comments behaviours in this cycle, I want to change tack. Is it going to work if o respond with..... that was rude/ that was unnecessary/ that was unkind/ that was passive aggressive etc etc. So I'm responding, not engaging in any arguments, not getting upset but also not ignoring which I think gives the message - say and do what you like, I don't care.
What do you think??