Hi all, new to MN but having read various threads over the years and you all seem a lovely knowledgeable lot!
So here goes...I'd really like your opinions on the following, whilst it shouldn't matter that much to me, it does and I've been over thinking and generally beating myself up as you do!
Met this guy online about 4 months ago. Lives local to me and found out we have mutual friends. He's divorced and sees his two kids regularly. Hit it off instantly, would talk for hours and hours about everything and anything, often way into the early hours. Would both joke that we were so alike and could talk about things we'd never tell our friends. Anyway, got to the meeting stage a few times but we didn't due to life and both saying perhaps we had too much in common for it to work. Kept talking the whole time though and we both went on dates with others. Last weekend he messaged me one night to say he'd been out with a woman but had realised that I was the one he wanted. Said he was tired of being used and he knew I was genuine and amazing and felt like we had been put on the earth for each other and that meeting me would be like destiny and wanted to be with me. I was completely taken back having never actually met him, but have to admit these words really struck a chord and agreed to go on a date with him a few days later. We talked again lots before meeting, him telling me how he felt, all about his past etc, there was no let up. Date was wonderful, we were meant to go to the cinema but he suggested not going as we were getting along well and we talked all night instead. We kissed at the end of the date, he held my hands, looked into my eyes and told me I was wonderful.
He messaged me again as soon as he got home, told me all this stuff again, said he couldn't wait for next time and that all his past had been leading to this. I didn't respond too much but said I liked him too.
He talked again the next day as he was off work, flirting, telling me this all again. Then literally a couple of hours later said he'd been thinking and he didn't want this, wasn't ready for a relationship but wanted to be friends. I said I couldn't understand it after all he had said to me, he said he didn't want to lead me on. The worst part for me though, I said I felt he had already lead me on with what he had said to me and his actions and he had the cheek to say I came on too strong!! He had basically declared his undying love for me.
He's left me questioning my whole self and he's straight back on those dating sites!
I'd just like to know others perspectives, am I too sensitive? I'm just fed up with all of this and want to meet someone decent that doesn't continually do this to me.
Thank you in advance x