Could you cope with living like this?

[BluePeppersAndBroccoli]

DH is a lovely man but is completely and totally unable to make small talk. As in, if left to his own devices, he will say about 5 sentences from the time he is back home from work to the time we are going to bed. That's it.
He also has the annoying tendency to just carry on with whatever he is doing regardless of the conversation going on, incl leaving the room. Think him asking a question, me answering just to see him turning his back on me and leaving the room. He would do that too of I'm trying to raise an issue.
Any issue that I can raise is met with silence. No proposal for a solution, no fighting or telling me im wrong either. Just silence.

It's driving me crazy. Conversations are usually me talking and at best him going hmm hmm. And maybe one or two sentences when he is put on the spot with question such as 'so what do you think?'

I'm starting to wonder if I will be able to cope with that much longer. Sounds such a petty reason to think separation though.

I can remember that my Mum and Dad never spoke, (very uncomfortable) in my 18 years in their house. Routine was Dad came in, put the housekeeping by the radio, then went to his room.
Mum did our meals, washing etcc. Mum also worked at the same factory as Dad.
Dad died at 54 years of age and Mum did not attend the funeral.
When Mum was about 75, we got visitors from London, who were apparently relatives. When Mum
died it transpired that she had a daughter in Ireland when she was 12 years old.
I never found out the total story.
I have “selective hearing” nowadays, but one thing is certain, that I would not speak to my partner less then 500 times a day, unless we had a “cob” on.
You need some stock phrase such as “SAY SOMETHING, EVEN IT'S ONLY BOL$OCKS”.

manaka yes we seem to be in the same boat.
At least this thread has reminded me that his lack of conversation isn't something he can do a lot about.
I've tried the 'PLEASE SAY SOMETHING EVEN IF ITS BOLLOCK' but it didn't work new

So back to the drawing table of finding a balance for me and the dcs.
I'm hoping that what I'm doing atm (wo DH support because it's all weird and clearly this nutritionist is just here to take your money, even if it's obvious I am better than 6 months ago ) will allow me to get out and get the social contact I need outside the house.
Fwiw dc2 I believe is also somewhere in that spectrum or has some traits. Knowing that and knowing how hard I have found it at times with DH, I've put a lot of work with him re communication etc... and it's paying off. I don't think he will ever be good at small talk BUT he has learnt not too walk away and to engage a bit in conversations. At least that's a start.

My dh is similar, and I don't know how much longer I can cope with it. It's hard, because it's just how he is, he doesn't mean anything bad. But we talk about it every now and then, and nothing changes. It's slowly killing me.

biscuit I'm sorry you are in the same boat.

Since I 'discovered' about the AS/autism, I have found that it brought two things for me
One is the fact that he is not doing anything malicious. That's who he is and he can't change it. So that behaviour is still compatible with him being loving and caring. It helped a lot accepting it rather than seeing it as rude and as sign of him being a twat.
But at the same time, this means that it is something he can't dong anything about. It's a disability in some ways (even though I know people on the spectrum often resent been told they are disabled). And I still struggle. It makes me feel as if I was asking someone who is blind to sort socks by colour. And I'm wishing he would be more talkative and he can't. Which is making me feel crap iyswim because I'm expecting from him something he cannot do.

I'm wondering where is the balance there TBH.
Esp as, being ill myself, there as been plenty of things that I haven't been able to do too. And I have been expecting DH to compensate for that and to accept it.
Arrrg....