HI my husbands ex wife and mother of the two children gives us nothing but hassle for our whole relationship.
We both have two boys each so have been gradually blending our family and are in a good place. But she is very unstable and is always either trying to get my husband to still act like her husband by wantING a very unhealthy "friendly" relationship where they text and chat with kisses on the texts and chat and go to each others houses (something I am totally NOT on board with)
Or she sends reams of writing threatening us because the boys had an argument (even though her don started it) and mine is now a bully and she will report us or to terrible emails threatening to take the children away from him (even though he is a wonderful, decent father and she has lost her licence for drunk driving and has a drink and mental health problem sling with a long string of horrendous and abusive boyfriends).
So this morning g we get a "white flag" email suggesting we go to mediation to sort out how to go forward. I find this laughable as all we want is to be civil and send the minimal amount of messages re: picking the boys up etc but it's her that causes all the drama.
I think mediation is another one of her dramatisations and the fact she's feeling happy today. My husbamd however wants to go to placate her and he thinks if she's happy it will all be ok.
Am I unreasonable to be infuriated by the fact that he's putting her happiness first and not taking into account it's not needed and we can just say "thanks for the email, let's be civil from now on"?
It seems to me he's still putting her feeing and suggestions first and not his actual wife. She has caused us SO much hassle and trouble you have no idea and is very manipulative and controlling and this us just another way to keep her control over my husband.
Help and advice please!