My DH and son hate each other. My son is autistic and he winds his dad him up until he flips. My son finds it hard to regulate his emotions and can have meltdowns over little things to us but big things to him. He has cottoned that a great way to get his dad's attention is to shout and scream even when not necessary. Dh has never been hands on and has always found the children a chore. We don't get on any more and lead separate lives but he will not move out as he likes his house too much. I keep telling him he is the adult so he should just ignore his behaviour and give me him positive attention but he refuses. They just shout and swear at each other. He has nothing nice to say about him evetything is deragatory and mean so my son retaliates by being mean back, One day when I am confident enough will up and leave with the kids but until that day what can i do to make living together bearable?.