Ridiculous fight with MIL

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Hey everyone.

Never posted anything before so looking for some advice I guess?

Me and DH have been together 6 years - we have a 3 year old. My MIL has never really liked me - she's very religious and always resented the fact that we had our DC out of wedlock and that I have tattoos and come from working class etc. She's never made it obvious but you know when you know.

Anyway over Christmas we had a huge argument and it resulted in us having no contact since then. She's even blocked me on facebook.

We've all now been invited to go over for an Easter Sunday meal at the in laws. It'll just be me DH DC, my in laws and her parents.

I really really don't want to go - DH doesn't really like to get involved which I understand. But if I go I'm going to be made fo feel unwelcome and I'll be so uncomfortable. But I don't wanna cause anymore grief.

What would you do??

Best of luck, OP. As PPs have said, consider this to be you giving it another try. If it yet again disintegrates into her usual nonsense, then you can call it a day between you and her, knowing you've given it more than a fair trial.

Hope it's ok. You say that she's not tried to make you feel unwanted but you 'feel' it. Well, you could be oversensitive or maybe she just didn't approve but has the manners to keep it to herself (not great but shows some decency!). You did the say what the big row was about so we can't really say if it was reasonable for noone to be speaking. Things do get out of hand.

Life is too short. If she is disappointed in her son's choice of partner then that's her issue. She isn't telling him to leave and find someone else, or insulting you to your back or face. It's manageable!

Life ready is too short!
Grandparent are mostly great for the kids and they love being around them (usually).

Hope it's a nice lunch and everyone behaves themselves!

OP whatever happens this afternoon, at least you will come out of it knowing you are the bigger person. It's all on MIL right now, and I think you should make sure your DH understands that. If it's a disaster, you have more than earned the right to stay NC and it's his problem to fix. (Although I agree it's always been his problem!

Sorry op I missed your second post! I thought it was just some misunderstanding. She sounds like she might be hard work and unless you have a hide like a rhino, exhausting.

I'd go with an open mind but with a get-out clause. If she starts being pissy, just leave. No argument or fuss, just walk.

I think those are some pretty unforgivable things to say to you OP

I would insist on some rules at a minimum with your DH in the future - we won't cut your mum out BUT
We have a common understanding that rudeness about me or our parenting will be a) pulled up and b) if no improvement will result in us calmly leaving. No scenes no huffs, just leaving.

I hope it was an olive branch today OP