8 year old children.????? help.

[Aloveheart]

This may have been asked before but i can't find it on the search.

My dd8 is starting to be like a mini teenager taking everything to heart and big crys of 'it's not fair' and walking off and slamming doors. this morning she accidentally hit my dp on the head with the door, when he went to see to her. Is that normal behaviour?? she can be such a caring thoughful girl, but i've never really seen this side of her before. Just wondered if this was normal for a dd/ds of this age? thanksx

I've put that in the wrong topic list but oh well.

I too have an 8yr old dd who is prone to being temperamental! I honestly thought that she was too young to be experiencing anything hormonal just yet but it does make you wonder dosen't it? She also has the ability to be very loving and sweet and I have to admit, it's usually fairly easy to coax her round but it can be very waring at times if she's in one of her moods!

She spent last weekend with her friend (girl same age) and apparently she behaved beautifully! I think it's just us familiar folks who get the raw deal with her!

I find her better 'one to one' rather than with her 6 yr old brother but that's not always practical

You could be me. I have a thread about something similar. My DS is 9 in a couple of weeks, although i put in the thread that he is 9. He is terrible - like tantrums, kicking , screamiong etc. Lots of people on my thread have said this is quite normal for this age, because they are in their pre-teens and pre-puberty

my 11 yo started being moody at about that age, a nightmare isnt it.

It seemed her only spoken words were "its not fair" and "its not my fault". One day she was walking through town and walked into a lamppost and shouted its not my fault. LOL Damn those moving lampposts

It probably is quite normal, I found she would be "moody" for a week/10 days then suddenly be nice again then for about 2/3 weeks, then moody again.

i read your thread about your 9yr old ds.

I just thought it was really early to be going through these pangs of moodiness asi am sure i wasnt' liekthat at her age. It's just so tireing isn't it@?

I dont' know it must be age i suppose.

My kids behave so well when they are separate and are terrible when they are together i have a 8 year old dd and a 7 year old ds.

Another thing to bear in mind is, at age 8 I was spending a good deal of time walking my dog, playing out with my friends, in other words, away from my parents (I am 44 though, so possibly a slightly older mum).

My point being, these days our children are almost always with us, whether it be at home or otherwise, so we don't have nearly as much peace and quiet as our parents did!

I try to make sure my two do separate activities and have time to themselves but it's very difficult. Imagine, all those years ago, I used to be gone from dawn till dusk!

I know what you mean i was allowed out to play, and i'm 28 nearly. But i dont' feel it's safe nowadays to let them out to play.

Also my house is small so hard to separate and tehy dont' want to play upstaires for some reason. But i understand exactly what you mean though. We're taking them out this afternoon so hopefull when we get back they will be toot ired to moan and strope. lol.

My once calm, sweet loving dd just 9 has started doing the same..I think it is their hormones and trying out their authority. I sometimes wonder how much she has learnt from me!! Just keep on cuddling her ands loving her when she is being nice.

Aloveheart you could be describing my kids at the moment. They have always got on quite well (the odd fall out but you expect that) but the last few weeks they cant even be in the same room. Pretty tough when there is 4 of them! I have 2 DD's ages 11 and 8 and 2 DS's ages 10 & 6.

wow that is a handful feel quite stupid for moaning about 2!! Yes mine are quite close as there's only a 15 month age gap. One minute they love each other the next they hate each other. lol. We went food shopping today and they were so well behaved i was so proud. i praised them to pieces when we were home. But other times i feel like pulling my hair out. I think it must be hormones because they are not really young children but not yet teenagers iyswim. happy times!!