We've been married a long time and have two teenagers. As long as I've known him DH has suffered with depression, either bad or low level. He's taken anti depressants and tried CBT but come off them every time because of physical health problems he has which seem to be worse with the medications. I love him very much but most weeks he barely speaks to me except to say that things are bad and he hasn't got the energy to deal with home as well as his difficult job. When he is feeling good it's great and so much easer. I feel like I'm constantly trying to make him feel better. He won't socialise with me and doesn't really have friends where we live. Kids both have ASD and are difficult which adds to the strain. I'm just so tired of trying all the time.