Cheated

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Need to vent...

I cheated on my husband a few days ago with a friend of his and now I feel stupid!! I can't believe I let myself think it would be ok. I was infatuated with the other guy, hadn't felt like that for years but I was happily married....hadn't even looked at another guy! I didn't understand where these feelings had come from.

Been with my husband 11 years and been having strong feelings for his friend for over a month, constant flirting and other stuff led us to take it further. The other guy is also married. We agreed it would just be a bit of fun. We did it once and I was ok after.... but now every time I look or talk to my husband I just want to tell him the truth. I can only imagine how disastrous that would be for us all. I know I need to put all this behind me and not have anymore involvement with the other guy and live with my guilt.

Would you tell and be completely honest??.... hubby has always said he would kill me and the guy if I ever did anything.

.......yes! I'm a total idiot!!!

No worries lindsey. We've all done it.

I've cheated in the past on boyfriends when I was a lot younger and it's not something I'm proud of. It's really selfish behaviour and you need to have a long hard think about how you'd feel if your husband fucked your best friend and was always flirting with her behind your back too.
I'm now with the person I'm going to marry and I think if it ever got to the point where I was lusting after other men then I'd end things straight away. If you're truly with the right person who makes you happy and meets your needs then you'd never have looked at his friend in the first place. His so called friend sounds like an absolute scumbag! Again, imagine if you knew your best friend was chasing after your husband. Bet you'd not be too chuffed

I don't really know why the other guy affected me like he did

Do you have problems with impulse control generally?

Didn't you think about the aftermath of all this in advance?

Maybe this is your subversive two-fingers to your husband who threatens to kill you if you step out of line?

It's a dangerous game to play though.

He's got a cheating wife and a twatty friend, how nice for him.

How would you feel/would you want to know if it was the other way round?

I hope he finds out and runs for the hills.

Do you have kids together?
If not then I suggest you leave your current DH.
Threats to kill should NOT be taken lightly.
You did something horrible.
You know you did.
Either leave or tell your DH and let him decide if he wants to stay with a cheat.

I wouldn't tell him. I think you need to work on yourself, on the reasons why you had this affair. It sounds like there might be some self-esteem issues in there, that need airing with a counsellor. You need to make sure you never, ever do something like this to your marriage again.

Definitely do not tell anyone.

I think he has a right to know what his wife and "friend" have been up to behind his back!

What do the yellow flowers mean?!?