Hope this won't seem trivial or be too 'trigerring'. I've posted several times recently about H who 1) got a new puppy against my wishes 2) sent me a link to an article about ASD which i think i have but it really upset me. He generally is being very selfish and has always been like this. We have sort of been living separately (2weeks) as there is a place he can stay (other house) which is more puppy friendly as our house has carpets. Which the puppy has peed on, i don't blame her but it's upset me a bit. He wants me to stay in the other house but i don't...I work full time and i like my routine. Which supports his suggestion of ASD but he won't consider my needs at all, thinks I could just bring a spare shirt and go from there.
So last night we were having dinner (at the carpet house) as I'm trying to hold it together and avoid increasing bad feeling, thinking maybe it's just the stress of a (his) new puppy. He spilled a plate of Indian food onto the beige carpet. I didn't get mad, just said he needed to clean it up. He was faffing doing it badly and I said to him I'd do it (a bit of passive aggressiveness from me) then basically he told me i was doing it wrong, etc....Then I said 'its a good thing I got a quote for new carpet' and he got furious with me, said i should have asked him first. Which sent me into a rage, all I'd done was go into the shop and ask about prices which the guy had written down for me. Anyway it culminated in us both apologising but then he got angry later when he had to leave with the puppy, I wasn't begging him to stay i guess. His ideal situation would have been that i went to the other place (walking distance) but I said no.
Anyway. This morning I'm leaving for work, I see he's vomited on the steps on his way out. I just had to clean it up.
Not sure how to feel about this 